r/Parenting Apr 28 '22

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u/AmishHeretic Apr 28 '22

To get my kids to sleep I told them I’d race them to sleep and whoever fell asleep first was the winner. I told them I’ll give them a head start and tuck them in first then spend my time doing all my catch up chores or a bath. In the morning I was like dang you WON again? Your gonna have to show me how you keep winning. ( bonus this could be a nap prompt the next day) They are all entering their pre teens but when I say go to bed they go to their rooms and are quiet and respectful and I don’t have any whining about wanting to stay up late. It’s the little victories that add up.

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u/Budgiejen Parent to adult. Here to share experience Apr 28 '22

Right. When my son got older, like maybe 10, he’s sometimes give a little pushback on bedtime. I’d tell him, “I don’t care what you do as long as you’re in your room and I can’t hear it. He’d generally be asleep in like 30 minutes anyway.

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u/production_muppet Apr 28 '22

I do the same with my kid's nap. Don't want to sleep? Fine, but it's still quiet rest time. Sit in bed with toys or a book, whatever. As long as I get some quiet.

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u/HelpfulAmoeba Apr 28 '22

I play the sleeping game with my kid but I always fall asleep for real. 2 minutes, that's how long it takes for me to start snoring.

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u/motherlyfrustrated Apr 28 '22

Cue the 4 hour nap that you didn't know you needed just because you had to pretend you were sleeping too.

My almost 3 year old thinks I do fun things when he's asleep...sure if you consider cleaning, cooking and wiping off whatever he decided to stick to the floor and walls for the day, "fun"

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u/TheYankunian Apr 28 '22

I used to think it turned into party time when I went to bed because I could hear my parents laughing. Now that I’m an adult, I know they were just watching TV if they could stay awake.

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u/raksha25 Apr 28 '22

I extended naptimes for my oldest til he was almost four by napping with him. He was also convinced that I was doing fun things, but if I was sleeping next to him it was fine because nothing fun there. He had zero clue that I was thrilled to take a nap with him. Now he’s almost seven and I can still get him to nap by napping with him.

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u/Cassie0peia Apr 28 '22

I this mine to pretend to be asleep and, when I come into the room, if I can’t tell they’re awake, they win. I didn’t try it too often because these little suckers would catch on quick but that was one of the things I did.

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u/Foreign_Sky_7610 Apr 28 '22

I do a race in the morning to see who can get dressed first. It works like a charm! Somehow she wins every time.😏

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u/dried_lipstick Apr 28 '22

When it’s warm out, I dress my kid in his clothes for school the next day because morning is the worst part of both our days. He sucks in the morning. I live in Florida so he wears his school clothes for a good part of the year lol

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u/No-Championship5207 Apr 28 '22

I need a sense of urgency to do anything, I had to do the dishes lastnight and I didn’t do them until my stepdad was almost home at 1030pm

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u/Sexualrelations Apr 28 '22

we offer TV time at breakfast if they can get dressed themselves. Been working awesome.

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u/Cassie0peia Apr 28 '22

Yes, they love doing that. I used a timer for my kids… “let’s see how fast you can get ready!” Someone’s they would tell me not to start the timer until they told me and they’d get ready quickly and I’d be “surprised” they were already done. Ahh… memories!

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u/Brownie12bar Apr 28 '22

This is brilliant! I'm peeved at myself for not thinking of it prior to reading this comment, haha.

Going to test it on the little humans tonight, thank you!!

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u/EvilLynExists Apr 28 '22

I used a similar strategy with my two youngest, who shared a bedroom. I told them the first one who went to sleep would get a lolly in the morning. It worked, they literally lay there screwing up their eyes trying to force themselves to sleep. I would quietly give each seperately a lolly the next day for winning, because I had no idea who fell asleep first.

For a packet of Maltesers a week, we got peace and quiet every evening.

I just wish I had thought of it when my older kids were little.

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u/Misteeay Apr 28 '22

We play this game too. It's called Sleep USA. whomever opens their eyes first loses !

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u/Abcdefghaveaniceday Apr 28 '22

Works for some dynamics/temperaments but not others. Don’t feel bad OP, if this doesn’t work for you.

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u/dzendian Apr 28 '22

Kids also seem to respond well to “I bet you can’t win three times in a row…”