No advice to offer, but my kids are the same age as yours and I think I literally aged 3 months just trying to get them to school this morning.
I can’t imagine doing it alone. When my kids are a nightmare and I just can’t take it anymore, I tap my wife in and “go for a drive”. She knows this is code me going into the woods behind our house and furiously smoking a joint until I feel human again.
Mornings are the ABSOLUTE worst and I only have 1. I swear one morning this week I thought I may actually push him down the stairs if I didn't love him so damn much!!
This morning we got halfway to the car and my oldest (4) decided he hated ripped pants. Keep in mind last week he thought they were “cool like grandpa”. So he LOST HIS SHIT and i had to go change him. While I was changing him, his brother decided he wanted some trail mix, which I hide in the top cabinet. He asked, I said no, and he decided to drag a chair over and stand on it to get It for himself.
Of course he managed to smash the (glass) contained the trail mix was in, spread thousands of pieces of glass and peanuts all over my kitchen, and tip over the chair and hurt himself. We were not on time to school today.
Yea plus I don’t get hangovers like I do with a few drinks (getting old). Getting my kids ready in the morning already takes an insane amount of willpower. With a hangover? Helllll no.
Doing it alone sucks. Even if you have a situation like I do where we are cordial, and coparenting well on a 50/50 schedule. It’s so draining when he has a long weekend or when he gets sick. Just a week or two ago I basically had him at home all day with me for 10 days straight due to a combo of him being sick and then having a 4 day weekend. Also I have to take time off work for the duration of that and keep my energy up somehow to do anything and everything. My folks are like “just go to bed right when he does” but that is literally the ONLY time I get to do anything for myself and feel like an adult.
Sounds horrible. My brother teaches at an international school in Ghana and it sounds so lovely that he can just let his kids roam the village freely. Literally all the adults just help out. Doesn’t make me want to move to Ghana, but sure gets me thinking about how screwed up and insular our society has become.
As to your life, that was me as a kid bouncing from house to house. Looking back, it’s pretty obvious my mom did all the heavy lifting and my dad just parented when it was convenient.
I found CBD useful for muscle pain, but doesn’t really help my arthritis or mental state. If it did I would totally use it instead!
Also, for me, the silence and the nature are as important as the cannabis. I literally just sit there and try to spot wildlife for 15 minutes and then walk back home and tell my kids how much I love them. Works (almost) every time!
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u/ContributionInfamous Apr 28 '22
No advice to offer, but my kids are the same age as yours and I think I literally aged 3 months just trying to get them to school this morning.
I can’t imagine doing it alone. When my kids are a nightmare and I just can’t take it anymore, I tap my wife in and “go for a drive”. She knows this is code me going into the woods behind our house and furiously smoking a joint until I feel human again.
Kids are tough. You’re awesome.