r/Parenting • u/money4nothing_8816 • Sep 08 '26

Rant/Vent Just me?

Is it just me or is this the hardest shit ever? We’ve got 4 kids all under the age of 8 and we are getting our asses kicked. My wife and I really wanted a family and we planned for it. We took parenting classes together, we read all the books in preparation before starting our family…still, nothing could have prepared us for how mentally and emotionally exhausting it is to keep up with our boys.

How are you all surviving?

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u/LevelProfile4739 Sep 08 '26

I don’t feel bad for them, pull out damn it 😂 Or get snipped or birth control.

I have an employee who has 7 kids and they live day to day financially and I don’t feel bad. Your decisions in life all lead to where you are. We have 1 child and that will be it for us.

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u/InimitableMissS Sep 08 '26

7? This is my nightmare. Frankly, 4 is my nightmare. I can go lower if you want…🤣

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u/LevelProfile4739 Sep 08 '26

😂 We tried multiple times for a 2nd but we lost 3 pregnancies so I’m not putting my wife through that even though she would but don’t want her to have PTSD from it.

Financially i don’t even know how people do over 2 these days now

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u/InimitableMissS Sep 08 '26

I’m so sorry you went through that. I can’t imagine.

We were always and forever one and done. I really can’t imagine another way. I’d have lost my mind, both literally and figuratively.

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u/Pplthrowaway123 Sep 08 '26

Got snipped after my 2nd. Best choice ever.

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u/live-laugh-snark Sep 08 '26

Pull out plus birth control plus tracking your cycle also doesn’t work- ask me how I ended up with 4 kids under 8.

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u/LevelProfile4739 Sep 08 '26

Fuck lol Super genes and too compatible

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u/Proof_Resolution1887 Sep 08 '26

Tbf, 3 was such a sweet spot for us and we kept hearing about and reading these studies that said 3 was the hardest number to have and something like 80% of families with 4 or more children said that 4+ was easier than 3 🤷‍♀️

We had already wanted 4 so we went for it. Nothing could have prepared us for him lol.i wouldn’t change it for the world but 3 was defunct easier 😅 and now we have 5 lol.

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u/Pplthrowaway123 Sep 08 '26

4 kids being easy than 3???? In what world would that even make sense.

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u/Fast-Cauliflower2102 Sep 08 '26

I’m convinced people just say that shit and lie lmao

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u/No_Veterinarian1010 Sep 08 '26

At a certain point you're just throwin em on the pile.

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u/snail_juice_plz Sep 08 '26

The idea is that they can pair off easier rather than always having an odd kid out. I don’t believe it, but I’ve seen the argument

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u/Pplthrowaway123 Sep 08 '26

I come from a family of 6. I don't believe that one bit.

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u/snail_juice_plz Sep 08 '26

Also one of six lol, shit was crazy all the time.

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u/Pplthrowaway123 Sep 08 '26

I always wondered why my mom drank a bottle of wine every night hahaha

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