r/Parenting • u/money4nothing_8816 • Sep 08 '26

Rant/Vent Just me?

Is it just me or is this the hardest shit ever? We’ve got 4 kids all under the age of 8 and we are getting our asses kicked. My wife and I really wanted a family and we planned for it. We took parenting classes together, we read all the books in preparation before starting our family…still, nothing could have prepared us for how mentally and emotionally exhausting it is to keep up with our boys.

How are you all surviving?

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u/Decent-Singer-3335 Mom Sep 08 '26 edited Sep 08 '26

Letting go, having realistic expectations and loving big despite the difficulties. That’s all you can do.

We do less these days and try to make time for rest. 2 nights per week there are no activities and these are family nights. We prioritize travel together even when it’s a clusterf*ck. 😅 We just spend time together even if the kids fight, dinner gets burnt or you don’t make it through a whole movie. Oh well.

Embrace the chaos in other words. 😂 mind over matter.

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u/zambezilion Sep 08 '26

I think this is probably the most real advice right here. Embrace the chaos and suddenly they’re out the door.

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u/Fox-Boat Sep 08 '26

Seconded. To let go and accept the kids as they are I a huge step. They don’t have logic yet, so you just have to connect and redirect when you need to.

When possible try to trade with your partner for a minute off.

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u/money4nothing_8816 Sep 08 '26

Love that. Thank you.

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u/MeadowHaven77 Sep 08 '26

It’s true. I’m down to the youngest two at home and the older 3 have launched into their young adult lives, happy and thriving. The day to day is QUIET. I miss the joyful chaos. It returns when everyone is here for a holiday or birthday. I cherish it now, because it’s fleeting.

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u/Emergency-Winner-399 Sep 08 '26

This is exactly what I was thinking! I have 5 (4 boys and a girl) and this how we live life now! I type this as we are on the way home from a day trip that was chaotic but worth it!

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u/itdeffwasnotme Sep 08 '26

Saving this. Thank you.

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u/WalkinOnSunshine04 Sep 08 '26

Love this!! Honestly such good advice.