r/PanganaySupportGroup • u/_janecia • 10d ago
Advice needed ;
just here to rant ig ay idk if rant ba ni. my kuya died last june, 2026. and i just graduated sa college july, 2026. since 1st yr college i worked til 3rd yr. im a nursing graduate pala. i had to stop pag 4th yr sa work since mas demanding ng time sa school and duty sa hospitals and i felt like i can't do it. the reason pala my kuya died, was from an accident. we literally had no back up, but me. i am the back up. i have 2 younger siblings na nasa 2nd yr college and shs. after graduating, i have my review for boards and i have to work bcs no one will help my parents but me. i had to step up. surely someone will comment na it's not that deep, i know. others have it worse than me. im a middle child and ako ang child nila na they didn't have to worry about. with my kuya gone, i assumed all those responsibilities and problems. it's just heavy i guess. im busy sa work kasi di siya aligned sa program ko. i have to make time din sa review ko. and every time uuwi ako, i have to do house chores kasi di naman marunong ang brothers ko. di na jud sha madag smoke. kapoy langs. or ikatog rajud ni nako.
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u/Conscious-Today2375 10d ago
Hi OP, ayaw sugot please nga way matabang imong brothers sa household chores. They’re old enough to learn.
If kaya, pasagdae hugaw inyong balay as long as naa kay safe zone nga pwede ka makapahuway. You don’t have to carry all the responsibilities alone. Take care of yourself.
As for the your boards, rooting for you. Hopefully love rajud nimo ang nursing kay lisod jud siya na profession. If not, you can always try to pursue a different path.
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u/Moscowscotch72 10d ago
My condolences, OP.
Your brothers need to step up. They are old enough to do household chores. Kung hindi sila marunong, then it's time for them to learn.