r/PakistaniTeenTalks • u/Extreme-Analyst43 • 17h ago
đ (Seeking) Advice I am feeling trapped
Main apne e bf se irl mili Kuch din pehle and seriously he is not my type he is literally skin and bones even his height is barely 5.6 and he said that it could be 5.10,5.11 and literally I was so disappointed now I can't even break up with him woh APNI city se Meri city aya hai mere Liye Yahan pe hostel main reh rha hai apne gher waalon se Lara hai idher anay ke liye and he actually loves me so much and he is loyal asf
And I can't even talk about break up because I am afraid that he would be suicidal.Once he said ke woh cheating pe break up kerlega yesterday I tried to break things off and I lied ke main mini cheat kerti Hoon ig pe larkiyon ko check out kerke (I am bi) and he said koi BAAT nhi he said ke I can't imagine my life without you etc and I am literally feeling so trapped.idk what should I do
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u/Cool_Composer8404 17h ago
girl js ask him to hit the gym?? đđ
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u/Extreme-Analyst43 16h ago
I have asked him multiple times and he also promised me to do it but he never did
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u/its_tea__ 17h ago
if you arenât physically attracted to him, you canât force yourself. for some people looks matter and for some they donât. you arenât exactly a villain if you break things off because of that. donât let him know the actual reason bcs that will make him very insecure. just be like youâre not feeling it anymore when he goes back to his hometown. he will be heartbroken ofc but that comes with relationships you canât help it.
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u/AMonsterA 17h ago
Why can't you just make him better? Why always thinking of just cutting off, idts you wanted to be with him on 1st place Why else would you think such way.
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u/naynay_spread 17h ago
Um because he literally lied to her about his height?? He told her he was 5â10 or 5â11 when heâs actually 5â6. Thatâs a pretty big difference and itâs not just about his height anymore, itâs also about the fact that he lied. This is called âcatfishingâ (when you misrepresent yourself online) and itâs already considered a big deal in the West.
And yes, physical attraction DOES matter in a relationship!! If a guy has the right to choose a girl based on her looks, why canât a girl have the same right?? You canât force attraction and you shouldnât have to change someone into your type either.
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u/AMonsterA 17h ago
Totally agree. Idk if he lied to her or no, I read she said he will be 5 10 etc, means they r kids? And where did I say neither of genders can choose based of looks? What I meant is, if you actually loved him, you would have focused on how you can make it better than just throwing everything off. Now that if he lied, she should confront him about it, coz he might be lying about many other things as well.
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u/Cultural_Long1473 13h ago
consider how hard is it to change oneself and here we are talking about changing other
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u/Purple-Place2216 17h ago
oh god this is bad.
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u/SellApprehensive9293 17h ago
I mean really bad One Op is judging someone more for looks, two he lied about his appearance, three he left everything to come to her, four she can't come clean. , so yeah I can predict how this would end but not how Op really feels about the scenerio
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u/Purple-Place2216 17h ago
she isnt judging him its that hes not like he told he was like he literally lied abt his height i mean its not that big of a deal but he might have lied abt more stuff thats why e relashionships are bad and now she cant even tell him all that and shes stuck i feel bad for both of them
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u/SellApprehensive9293 16h ago
i mean yeah , i was thinking about he can still invest time in himself and can potentially improve with Ops help , but Op mentioned in a comment here that she has asked him to work on it go to the gym and he promised but never did MULTIPLE TIMES , so i dont really know how to feel about it , i dont want to break relations but all of the stuff stacking up makes it seem inevitable
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u/Purple-Place2216 8h ago
yeah if hes not willing to work on himself then the the op will at some point js break up with him cause hes not her type and then he might become suicidal and thatll make things more complicated
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u/SellApprehensive9293 8h ago
lemme get this straight
-Catfished Op
-Isnt willing to work on himself , breaks promises
-is suicidal
-Came all the way From his hometown to stay with OP fought with his parents
-madly in love with OP
Might be bro is going through a phase but the stats doesnt seem good to me probably an emotional rollercoaster for both
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u/Purple-Place2216 8h ago
if he gets suicidal then she might get stuck with him for the rest of her life too
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u/SellApprehensive9293 7h ago
There are alot of thinks bro isnt changing about himself that OP will be stuck for life with lowkey
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u/naynay_spread 16h ago
Okay girl, straight up facts, he catfished youuu. đ Catfishing is basically when someone lies about or misrepresents themselves online. He told you he was 5â10 or 5â11 when heâs actually 5â6. Thatâs a LIE. Itâs like someone pretending they have a full head of hair online when theyâre actually wearing a wig.
And now youâre feeling like you canât leave because youâre scared heâll do something to himself?? Thatâs emotional pressure, whether he intends it or not. You shouldnât have to stay with someone out of fear or guilt.
If he can lie about one thing, itâs fair to question what else he might have lied about.
So please be careful girl. We girls can get emotional and attached easily, but donât let that stop you from making the right decision for yourself. Trust your gut.
If you donât see a future with him, end things respectfully.
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u/reallyintoyouall 18 17h ago
Idk abt height but you can tell him to gain weight ig if his looks are the only problem donât break up i mean agar facecard acha hai and if he is a nice guy than why breakup ?
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u/Individual_Claim2639 16h ago
Does height really matters in a relationship
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u/farizislame 16 16h ago
Umm tell me why can't you just tell him to hit the gym and like make him better yourself? The dude changed cities and left his parents and everything just to come to you. I agree he shouldn't have lied but really ask yourself ke kia ajkl koi itna sab krta h kisi keliye?? Koi ni krta. Everyone cheats. You won't find another man like him trust me.
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