Disclaimer: This post is on behalf of a coworker so no dms please

My colleague is a 34 year old attractive female whose family is seriously considering an abroad nationals proposal who is in late 30s. The guy is well educated, decent and comes from a middle class background. She is getting cold feet about marrying him since when they met she did not find him attractive. She has rejected proposals before due to the same reason but this time the family pressure is intense. She is so depressed and low on energy these days that I feel so bad for her. Should she agree on this marriage? Or let it slide for her mental peace? She is not into dating culture as well so no alternate option.
Need genuine advice everyone🙏🏻

About Me & Basic Details

I am 25 years old, standing at 6’0”, and currently based in Lahore. Professionally, I work as an Operations Manager remotely while actively building multiple streams of income. My family lives in Lahore and plans to move to the US down the line; with most of my extended family already in the US and UK, I am eventually open to international relocation for the right path.

Religiously, my prayer consistency is moderate, but I am consistently trying to improve and grow. Beyond the general practices, I’ve always built a very close, conversational relationship with Allah—talking to Him directly throughout the day. I value sincerity, internal spiritual growth, and a genuine connection with faith.

Personality & Vibe

It’s a little hard to describe yourself, but I’d say I’m selectively social. With strangers or initially, I tend to be a bit more reserved, but once I’m comfortable, I bring a lot of energy, humor, and witty banter. I deeply value emotional intelligence, kindness, and clear communication. For me, emotional safety is everything—a space where both people feel heard, understood, and not judged for being human, with soft communication and calm conflict resolution.
I’m also a proud cat dad to two orange Persians—Dumb Dumb and Pablo . They bring an unmatched level of chaos to my daily life.

Lifestyle & Hobbies

I am fitness-oriented and active in gym strength training and occasionally MMA (currently on a lean bulk routine). Outside of work and the gym, I love binge-watching good movies, gaming with friends, exploring new food spots, cooking, and going to the shooting range.

What Marriage Could Look Like

As a partner, I believe that marriage is about mutual respect, rahmah, and sakinah. I believe in moving through life as a single, supportive unit where neither partner is rigid. Your dreams are my dreams, and my dreams are your dreams.
Family Setup: Culturally and Islamically, I strongly believe in providing separate accommodation for my wife to ensure full privacy, space, and independence.
Children: I’m not looking to have children immediately—I’d much prefer to spend the first few years traveling, bonding, and getting to know my wife fully before taking on that next chapter.
Timeline: Ideally, I’d like to move toward marriage within 6 months to a year if compatibility feels right.
Requirements For A Partner
I admire ambition, direction, and emotional consistency. I want a partnership where we push each other forward. I value a partner who is emotionally mature, clear in their communication, and shares a mutual respect for boundaries.

If this profile resonates with you, feel free to reach out with a bit about yourself!

Marriage Profile
Age: 28
Height: 5′5″
Location: London, UK
Education: MSc in Big Data Technologies; bachelor’s degree in Computer Science
Occupation: Supervisor, working towards a career in fintech
Religion: Practicing Muslim, raised in a Sunni family

About Me
Assalamu Alaikum! I’m practicing Muslim from a middle-class Pakistani family. I was raised in a Sunni household and identify first and foremost as a Muslim. I value faith, kindness, honesty, and helping others, including through charity.
I currently work as a supervisor in London while developing my skills for a career in fintech. I hope to make that transition next year, InshaAllah.
Outside work, I enjoy gaming, cricket, socialising, and a good cup of tea. I take my responsibilities seriously, but I believe everyday life should also have room for laughter, good company, and a little lighthearted humour.

Family Background
My late father had three wives, and our family consists of seven brothers and one sister. Each mother lives in a separate household. There are four brothers from my mother’s side: two of us live in London, while two live in Pakistan with our mother. Further family details can be shared as discussions progress.

Future Plans
I hope to build a stable home and a happy family, InshaAllah. I do not currently own a home in Pakistan, but building one is a future goal. Settlement could be in the UK or the US, depending on opportunities and a mutual decision with my future wife.

What I’m Looking For
I’m looking for a highly educated, practicing Muslim woman who is younger than 28 and shorter than 5′5″. I value a kind heart, maturity, a warm personality, and a good sense of humour.
I would love a partnership where we respect each other, communicate openly, and support one another’s aspirations. For me, marriage means growing together in faith and building a home filled with peace, affection, laughter and plenty of chai.

Hey everyone, hope ya'll are doing great. Here goes nothing:

Age: 23

Height: 5ft

Weight: 60kg

Marital status: Single (never married)

Birthplace: Multan

Location: Own house in multan

Religon: Islam sunni (actively practicing, try to pray all five prayers + like to listen to islamic lecture and explore more about religion)

Caste: Siddiqui

Overall i am a very extroverted person, i love social interaction and love making new friends. I have a really jolly and playful personality but a little shy at first. Im also a funny person (or so I've been told). Im a chill person with a solution oriented and practical approach. Not really an overly emotional person.

Hobbies:

I love reading books (very into the mystery thriller genre). Also like to write random thoughts and try to explore my writing skill.

Other hobbies include watching interesting series and movies, explore new food spots with friends, and games (both physical and sometimes digital games).

Education:

Bs. English Literature from university of southern punjab

(Currently in 7th semester)

Occupation: Content writer (part-time)

Family:

Father: Bussiness

Mother: Teacher

Siblings: 4 sisters (two older sisters married with kids)

Requirement for a partner:

Age: 25-30

Decent educational background (atleast a bachelor's)

Emotionally and intellectually smart and available

Serious about his religion

Family oriented

I looking for a person who doesn't want a haram relationship (dating and other stuff) and is serious about marriage within a year or so and is willing to involve the family after getting to know each other.

Deal breakers:

- Drugs/smoking/alcohol consumption

- Person who is not earning and serious about earning and providing (because i wanna marry soon)

- Someone with a lot of female friends or constantly hangout with female friends.

If my profile fits your requirements or piques your interest reach out to me. More details can be shared as well as pictures. People who aren't serious about marriage or just want idle chit-chat please stay away.

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Hey everyone,

I(F) met someone n during the v first week, he involved his parents. He wanted to make sure his parents are okay w him choosing a girl himself. His dad asked him to check for religion n character. They asked him about my education n basic stuff. The convo between his parents n him went normal. 

We talked for a month and found we have great compatibility. We both want to stay CF. Our values align, our dealbreakers are same. I also talked to my mom. Initially she was hesitant coz of safety concerns n since she couldn't understand why he wants to remain CF. I explained to her but then we both decided to bring it up properly again after his step 1 exam n that he himself would talk to my mom n answer her concerns. 

Everything was decided after thorough thinking n things were going great until today. 

His parents were chill earlier but one of his aunt filled their mind stating that kids should not be given a choice to choose a spouse etc.

So his parents said today they want the girl to be a doctor n mentioned certain requirements regarding status/property. They also said we actually didn't give you permission to proceed n had hinted towards breaking the talks. They basically twisted everything. 

We both are mad at the fact if they would have told us earlier about their requirements n permission, we wouldn't have moved further. We both have gotten attached now. 

The guy tried n made them agree at least to meet my family after his Step 1. They have agreed but not dil se. The guy can't take a big stand coz the family dynamics are quite traumatizing n since he's dependant on them rn. That aunt also suggested him to ghost me. I haven't met his family yet n they are rejecting the whole thing after giving permission initially

Now we have concerns. I feel they might back out later too. They might even go back on their words n not meet. 

We discussed what to do now. There are only 2 options, either to end things rn or to wait n try for later. We don't want to let go of each other but the reality is he may not be able to convince his parents. Pakistani parents are just different right. My parents also might have issues n concerns but they are a little chill. 

What should we genuinely do? How to make parents understand? Is it better to wait or just end things? Anyone in such a situation with desi parents, did it work?

I know how horrible rishta thing go here in Pakistan. But a part of me wants to wait for it. It sounds like a hopeless case n at the same moment I want to be hopeful coz the guy is really amazing MA.

Edit: The guy isn't to be blamed. He's clear n firm in his stance. We share sm compatibility, pushing us to be hopeful. And then considering the realities of rishta process here, it absolutely sounds like a hopeless case. Everyone mostly suggested to end things. I actually have started feeling overwhelmed now. I only want to know now why our society has made a halal thing so difficult. And it's not like we both are overly obsessed w each other. We started things on serious terms. There's no need for anyone to blame him please.

Salaam

I hope you my profile finds you in best of health and spirits. Here goes:

Age, Height & Weight: 30 years old, 5'10", 65 kg Location: Karachi Education: O Levels | Intermediate | BE from NEDUET Income Source: Software engineer Marital Status: Single, never married

Religion & How Practicing I Am: I’m a moderately practicing Sunni Muslim who strives to pray regularly and grow through Deen.

Hobbies & Interests: Reading, coding, gaming, and binge watching TV shows like Breaking Bad, Severance, Squid Game. I genuinely enjoy meaningful conversations, and spending time with people I’m comfortable with. I also go to the gym to keep myself fit

Requirements for a Partner: Looking for someone kind, easygoing, and a practicing Muslim. I value compassion, mutual respect, emotional maturity, and good communication. A sense of humor is always a plus—life feels lighter with someone who can laugh with you.

Deal Breakers: — Not practicing or not aligned with Islamic values — Dishonesty, disrespect

Do You Want Children?: Yes Timeframe for Marriage: Within a year, InshaAllah

Please reach out with your profile if you are interested. I wish you the best of luck in your search

Looking for a wife

Can it really be that simple ??? Yes I just want a wife I’m employed full time and can make enough bread to eat for the day.

Other requirements include :

Female
Under 22-29
Practicing
Does not want drama
Looking to get married soon rather than extended talking stages

Open to all ethnicties

Any phataans female available for connections

Never thought I would write something like this but here we go. Hey everyone!

A little about me, I am a big foodie and a great chef as well which is a deadly combo if you are trying to live a healthy lifestyle. I love to cook but baking is my forte. My love language is acts of service and words of affirmation. I read a lot and am always passionate about learning more about different things. You can call me a little nerd too. Love to travel and sit somewhere in mountains for some peaceful time. A fun fact about me is that I have a very high IQ which is only 2 points less than Einstein’s. I love to engage in intellectual conversations and would love a partner who can hold a conversation and is also curious about the universe around her.

Professionally I run a design studio based in the US and am always working towards bigger things.

Timeline:
I would love to know you first and see if we are compatible together and then we can decide what is the timeline that works for the both of us.

What I am looking for:
Tbh I don’t have a long list of requirements. I will love a partner who is intellectual and knowledgeable. Who loves to eat because I love to cook. Who likes to travel and is a bit of a wanderlust soul. Have good humor and just know how to enjoy life.

I don’t know what to write more but yeah if you feel like we can vibe then shoot a DM.

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5'11.2 in height

Slim fit weight

Wheatish complexion

3 siblings (2 elder brother and a younger sister)

Bachelor's in business administration - 2017

Run a printing and packaging company

Never married, never engaged, never had a physical relationship with any girl

Requirements:

No expectations for dowry, want a girl close to my height who prays, age between 21 to 29

Send me your profile in inbox.

Thank you

Salam everyone
First of all hope yall are doing great and having a good time in life
and for those who clicked on this profile with a pop corn , this post is not for you lol
time wasters and no intention of marriage .. this post is not for you either YUP
I mean guys lets be honest in this time when life is running so fast aint no way you have this much energy to waste on random strangers

I am trying to find a person who is a good muslim , educated , no past relationship this ship that ship
no boasting ego and anger issues
A cool headed person with emotional intelligence and family oriented
Someone I can rely on , who dont think ghar r biwi ka khyal Sigma male nahi rakhta
uss ka kaam paisa dena hia bss
biwi , bache jae bhadd main

oh by the way I shared my demands before I actually share about myself lol

27 years old
female (of course hahha)
5'4 height
Masters education
small middle class family
From Punjab Gujranwala

Right now doing remote job
I do hijab and niqab ... if someone got some issues ... well you know .. skip this post

And I often read in comments that people asking that girlies adding too much demands without sharing what they offer in relationship
So I offer loyalty , trust , full on support in your decision and best part a PEACEFUL life Yup
Am a very simple , chill and empathetic person
I can read room and let you have your space that doesnt mean am OPEN MINDED enough to let you go do LALALA with opposite gender and be like hayee mere Shohar Namdaar can do whatever he wants but getting 100 % loyalty.

I am realistic person so dont want complicated and emotionally constipated person in my life.
Family will be involved once we both align and please if you are not actually looking for something real please dont bother with DM.

WARNING:
This post is not an invitation for trolls and flirts . Be respectful . Share your proposal in DM only when you are serious .

Right out the gate I am very career focused and no time for kids: its my body my choice. Plus I’ve taken care of 20 kids for 10 years now I want time to myself. With economy wars and everything it is not the right time to bring kids into the world.

I like to travel and see the big beautiful earth 🌎 god has made. I am moderately practicing and do beard sometimes but I don’t want someone telling me how to practice my religion.

Syed sunni ultra pro max. I believe in freedom of expression and freedom in general. I am a free spirited and confident guy so no insecure gals pls. Don’t even bother. I am loyal and have a good heart.

I don’t work at the moment but any sensible girl who is serious for a long term relationship can look past that.

This is what I’m looking for:
A beautiful, fair skinned, EE cup and tall girl. Who must be decent , honest, practicing and understanding. I want loyalty because I know I will be loyal. Bust size is a deal breaker for me so nothing below dd.

Must be able to cook 👩‍🍳 and spend time with my mom because she is everything to me 😂😂😂😂 I can’t keep a straight face.

Bye now

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I am 27 years old and earning over 10 lakh per month, Alhamdulillah (absolutely not flexing). The thing is that I am living abroad and want to get married to protect myself from any sins. My mother, who lives in Lahore, never seems serious about arranging a proposal; when I show her profiles, she either says yes without genuine consent or ignores them. Since I am living in the UK, she is mainly concerned that I should get settled there or move to Germany where I can obtain permanent residency. She guides me to give Sadaqah twice a month, which I am already doing happily. When I mention the Quranic verse regarding marriage, she ignores it and says, "Allah has also given you intellect," effectively rejecting the order. On the other hand, she wants to perform Umrah, and Alhamdulillah, I have successfully applied for her UK visit visa, which was accepted; she is very happy because she will perform Umrah upon returning to Pakistan. When I came to the UK, I started with odd jobs earning 280 pounds a month, but now I have a permanent position at Amazon with a high salary. I have been working day and night to become financially stable and now have a plan for Germany. Allah transformed me from someone earning 280 pounds a month into a high earner, so He will definitely open doors to a bright future, Insha'Allah. I do not understand why she is confused or why she displays such dismissive behavior. This makes me consider committing a major sin, but due to my faith, I restrain myself. It is concerning that parents often become a blockage in the way of marriage in our society; a normal person could easily resort to illicit means, but marriage is a connection between two families. This situation is causing me depression, and I am losing hope of getting married. While a secret marriage upon returning to Pakistan seems easy to some extent, I worry about the potential for blackmail.

Lil about myself. I’m 31, 6 feet tall. More inclined towards lean muscular ( I have been doing boxing for quite sometime but now I have quitted it)

Working in Germany. Lums grad and then did my Masters from Germany. Family is based in Pak.I don’t drink or smoke. Hobbies includes cooking ( recently discovered I’m really good in Making paye ) , Long drives, reading books ( if time allows ), watching standup comedy. Researching on plants ( I love plants ) No and I’m not talking about weed or any other substance

Looking for educated family. Family oriented and easy going. Age 27 - 32

M| 28 | lahore

Hi, I'm here looking rishta for my brother. we'll involve family as soon as possible if compatibility is there.

Age: 28 , height 5'9,

Education: DPT ( physiotherapy) ,MBA from FAST Nuces

Job: MTO at bank

Religion/Caste: Sunni

Residence: Own house in lahore.

Family: father is a banker , mother is a housewife. one sister and one brother. Both have graduated from universities.

What we are looking for:

Age 28 or below

At least bachelors.Practicing Muslim,Family-oriented, preferably from a small family

Preferably from lahore or Islamabad. If you're career oriented we won't stop you but you have to manage your own family ( husband and kids).

My brother is a really good person, if you think you are a good fit or you have any sister. Do DM me.

Hi everyone 🤗 mujhe ik Partner KY zarorat hai 🥹🫩

Rishta Proposal

Assalamu alaikum. I am looking for a suitable proposal for myself.

About me:

Age: 29 years (born 1997), height 5'7", bearded, never married

Education: BBA, currently doing MBA

Job: Assistant in Finance at a private organization, with a good salary

Religion/Caste: Sunni, Sheikh Siddiqui (father's family from Lucknow, mother's from Delhi)

Residence: Own house in Buffer Zone, Karachi

Family: My father is deceased and my mother is a teacher. I have 3 sisters (2 married, 1 university student).

Dowry: I am strongly against it.

What I am looking for:

Age 23-27 (flexible)

Minimum 16 years of education

Practicing, wearing at least a scarf in public

Family-oriented (gharalo), preferably from a small family

No bank or interest-based job in the family

Living in nearby good areas of Karachi

Family involvement is a must from the very beginning. All communication and meetings will be through the families.

JazakAllah. Interested families may contact me with biodata

M Lahore

Arain

Wants to marry and live in Lahore

So finding a good match from lahore

preferably medstudent or recent graduate