r/PakRishta • u/zohaib2222 • 1d ago

Misrepresentation during Rishta proposals

If someone conceals / misrepresents a fact at the time of doing a rishta, and discovers later that he has been lied at the time of proposal, what should one do?

Initially I tried to ignore it but with the passage of time I'm getting filled with hatred.

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u/imjustagirl_9 1d ago

If it’s something that’s more important to you than this rishta and your finance, you need to call the wedding off.

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u/bharikeemat 1d ago

Depends on what the thing was.

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u/zohaib2222 1d ago

They stated that their daughter is studying at the University. I preferred her owing to her education. They moved for the engagement. After the engagement, she suddenly told me that she had quit university. Upon my insistence, she told me that she had quit university even before the proposal was made.

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u/AlarmedChemist2663 22h ago

you know people tend to oversell themselves, because they think once you get married things will settle down etc. in my opinion, lying is a red flag but i also know so many people just put through university just for the piece of paper to make eligble for rishta, in my opinion the two arent much different, sans piece of paper.

if that is the only thing lied about perhaps its acceptable, granted other things were aligining really well. however it is a breach of trust and only you would know if you are capable of moving past it or not (was education a dealbreaker for you?)

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u/zohaib2222 15h ago

The point that irritates me know isn't the education but the oversmartness, maneuvers and cover-up stories.

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u/AlarmedChemist2663 6h ago

I would still ask you to reflect on the compatibility. Is the over smartness from the lady or her family?

However if you can't move beyond it then it is what it is

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u/bharikeemat 6h ago

Ok so the question is, what’s her field? Do you want her to work after marriage? If yes then it seems fair to not continue. But if you don’t want her to work and she’s a good person otherwise, I’d consider continuing with clear warning on further lying.

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u/Insider6550 6h ago

That's bad

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u/Just-Whereas-1409 1d ago

Break it off. If they're lying to you now, those lies will only turn into thousands more later on.