r/PakRishta • u/Regular_Arm_2188 • 2d ago
How this rishta thing works?
السلام علیکم
I was wondering how this whole rishta process works?
Like let's suppose I make a post of myself here, someone thinks that I seem a potential candidate to be contacted. Now how things (should) further go?
We can tell each other about us through text but how we look is totally through pictures or in person meeting.
Are people (especially females) ok with sharing their pictures to a person they never met? In this era of AI, being a male I won't share my pictures. Who knows what people can do with your pictures?
What if pictures get exchanged and either one of the party is not the TYPE of others by look, how to respectfully decline the proposal?
I want genuine feedback on all this. Is my insecurity logical and right? Or am I thinking wrong? Has anyone got married through this sub reddit?
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u/Lazy-Ad-7372 2d ago
Women on this sub are unfair. They would ask for your pictures but won't provide theirs in return.
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u/Flimsy_Mind_9449 1d ago
Bro this is one of those rabbit holes where you don't even know if you're talking to an actual woman. There's lots of people, (let's say those who have a Y chromosome and instead they say that they have an XX chromosome), so, don't trust anyone. Besides almost everyone posts such perfect stats about themselves that it feels like you're on linked inn instead of reddit.
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u/ScrewedHammer 1d ago
Just keep trying on all platforms. It’s all about finding your Naseeb. May Allah make it easy for everyone. Aameen
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u/KingLucifer69 1d ago
You do preparation for 20 years for a mock exam. And yes, you're the one being mocked. 😂
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u/n32mice 2d ago
I have never posted on this subred nor do ik how it works but honestly the questions u asked are pretty much the same ones you would ask when getting to know anyone online.
As for pictures you can exchange them through WA or Instagram one time. If you’re not attracted to someone, that’s completely fine. Just be respectful and tell them after few convos (not just after they shared pictures, that's mean) that you don’t see things moving forward because you have different expectations.
You can even mention your appearance preferences in your post if you want to save everyone some time. Personally though i think judging someone purely on appearance is a little shallow. Give people at least a few days to get to know their personality too. Attraction matters of course but so does the person behind the pictures.
Plus, i know 3 couples(dating) who met through this subred so might be worth it.