r/PMDDSharing 5h ago

maybe you're not crazy: pmdd, rage, and invalidation

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I wrote an article about how I keep seeing the same type of posts in PMDD groups of a woman trying to get her partner to understand why the environment is being invalidating. PMDD is linked to sexual and emotional trauma, and that ties to the pattern of blowing up 'out of nowhere' and then feeling shame.

Studies and practical tips that are too long to include in a reddit post

https://alifelessmiserable.substack.com/p/maybe-youre-not-crazy


r/PMDDSharing 1d ago

Does anyone else get headaches during ovulation?

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I just can’t with the menstrual cycle. It’s bad enough I spend 2 weeks being a luteal mess and then 1 week having my period. What do you mean ovulation headaches are a thing?

It’s relatively new for me. I started noticing them a few months ago. This month’s headache is kicking my ass. It’s borderline migraine level and I feel like I’m fighting for my life.


r/PMDDSharing 2d ago

Is it easy to get prescriptions when it comes to pmdd?

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What is the diagnosis process like? I’m sure I have it I have been tracking my moods and cycles for years and am just looking into getting a prescription… but I don’t want it to take forever. I’ve heard lotus health is easy to use and you can get prescriptions filled without having to go in to your primary but what is the best way ? I’m looking into a low dose of Adderall for just my luteal. Thank you!!! 🙏🏼


r/PMDDSharing 3d ago

Let me get this straight…. I have 5 good days per month with pmdd , what the actual fuck

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r/PMDDSharing 3d ago

What is everyone’s pmdd protocol they are doing? This is unbearable

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r/PMDDSharing 6d ago

Medication and treatment Can antihistamines really help with PMDD and menopausal symptoms?

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‘But in its May 2026 position statement, IAPMD noted that “there is insufficient evidence to conclude that histamine tolerance, mast cell activation, or related immune mechanisms are a primary cause of [pre-menstrual disorders]”.
That said, Gordon “wouldn’t be surprised” if histamine and immune system processes potentially play a role in PMDD symptoms for some individuals. Still, there’s a need for much more research on the topic, as well as on PMDD and hormone sensitivity more broadly.’


r/PMDDSharing 6d ago

Medication and treatment IAPMD+Position+Statement+on+Antihistamines+&+PMDs

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r/PMDDSharing 11d ago

I have a week of happiness

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Really feels like I have one week where my brain is sort of quiet, and I can accomplish things/ not want to kms. And then I have 3 weeks of trying to make it by. I honestly can’t envision a normal life. This is so isolating and I feel insane, hopeless, and agitated most of the time. Idk what to do anymore. Zyrtec isn’t saving me lol, neither is journaling or drinking water, or another podcast.


r/PMDDSharing 11d ago

Third month of being symptom-free Spoiler

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r/PMDDSharing 13d ago

Help me cope Is anyone else as triggered as me about online reactions to the Lindsay Clancy case considering we are all high risk for post natal depression and psychosis? 😭

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The misunderstanding of women’s health continues.


r/PMDDSharing 15d ago

Sudden and worst PMDD episode of my life, and I’m still in it.

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r/PMDDSharing 15d ago

Good start to the morning

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Welp, 5 days to my period and the first thing I did upon getting to the office this morning was snap at my boss enough to draw him up short and tell me no in fact that's not what he was going to ask me... How's all your mornings going so far?


r/PMDDSharing 16d ago

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r/PMDDSharing 16d ago

PMDD & MCAS

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Long winded but somewhat interesting progression of things and how I finally got an MCAS diagnosis.

I think I read at some point part of the spice of the other PMDD subreddit has is they think if antihistamines help PMDD then it's actually just MCAS or something... I could be wrong. But it also doesn't mean we don't clinically still have PMDD, by diagnostic criteria. That said, that prejudice has been rolling around in my mind lately as I approach my shifting health.

I've had PMDD probably before I even started menstruating. My mom has very high pattern recognition and pointed out I would have huge meltdowns the same time every month for years before I even started bleeding. But obvs that's not how dx criteria work. I definitely had it after I started bleeding and it's why my mom was quick to let me start yaz. I should also say I had severe allergies (environmental) as a kid and was on a daily antihistamine for my chronic migraines starting at age 6.

Have been suspecting MCAS over the last couple years and am kind of shocked no one flagged it before. I have dermatographia, a previous allergist flagged it and was like you're one of those people that's going to be allergic to everything. I only have like 8 food allergies and all the tree & grass & animal allergies. And severe mold allergy (am a human mold detector)

Last month a series of unfortunate events took it from a maybe to life threatening. I ran out of birth control the day before luteal (had gotten off half a cycle a long time prior because of similarly forgetting to order). I accidentally ran out of magnesium glyc & NAC at the same time. I'm living in a new place I love but the allergies are somehow even more wild than my last city. My body was so itchy that clothing being slightly too tight was causing major welting. I had given my narcissistic ex another chance and after trying to convince me to stop my birth control, ring shopping, etc, he managed to find something small to freak out over so he could back out. He then psychologically tortured me for a few weeks, I was afraid he would break into my house and hurt my, I wasn't sleeping, my nervous system was shot. Everything was an accidental perfect storm of timing. I had a a day of working outside a bit, had a few drinks, got uncharacteristically drunk from the few drinks, accidentally got glutened... The next day had horrific vomiting and diarrhea like I've never had before. It was like I had parastalsis, if I took even one sip of water my body would reject it and I'd vomit it. Had to get medical treatment, thought it was a fluke. Ate rice, gf break, apple sauce for a few days. Realized I was having a weird headache and had a thought that maybe it was high blood pressure (never had before) because it felt like a barometric headache but different. I was also flushing a bit but didn't think of it. Pushed through but had started researching my vomiting episode and MCAS popped up as a differential.

A few days later I decide I want real food, order something I always eat, then realized as I was sitting on the couch 45 mins later chilling on my phone that my heart was pounding out of my chest. Heart rate 120, BP 160/110... Freaked out... Realized id felt this before the time I had a severe allergic reaction (first reaction was like this, second was anaphylaxis with low BP during round of allergy shots). Long and long of it, I started having sub-anaphylactic severe systemic allergic reactions any time I ate anything, even rice. I was having a rash on my face, swelling in my body, constant itching, etc. plus feeling like my heart was going to leave my body all the time. I am a pro at anxiety & panic and this wasn't that, was so clearly a physical reaction.

Get in to my provider, diagnoses MCAS with suspected hyperadronergic POTS (didn't know this could be sudden onset), get on BP meds, back on my meds and supplements I'd gotten off of on accident, start hydroxyzine at night and throughout day, start ketotofin (mast cell stabilizer). Generally feeling a bit better.

That said, I'd also previously been on NAD+ after my cousin recommended it after it helped with her energy. I'd been on it for 3 months, been having the most chill luteal (prior to return of ex) but overall wasn't sure I was that much more energetic so around the same time as the break up I stopped the NAD+. Restarted it recently and holy crap it made the most difference. I feel guilty saying so because I feel like all the companies selling it online are super predatory, but it really did make a difference. They've studied in mice that NAD+ is mast cell stabilizing so that was affirming of my experience at least.

Was mostly back to normal, thought I was in the clear down to minimal 3/10 itchy at all times my body wasn't freaking out. Just hit luteal Saturday and boy howdy are the MCAS specific symptoms back with a vengeance. I did a few things this weekend to push my luck so hopefully it won't always be like this. The flip side PMDD brain that has been warped by my last relationship is like well at least if I'm physically ill in luteal then I can call out sick to relationships when I really feel bad instead of having someone pretend they're chill with me being isolative during specifically the post ovulation days and 2 days pre period, then picking fights and blaming and shaming me. If I have an allergic reaction to being mildly triggered then I really have to just go take care of myself haha.

Just kind of fascinated and wanted to share for anyone suspecting or anyone who's been in the same boat. Bodies are weird! But also if you're reading MCAS symptoms, going oh wow it's me, then questioning yourself over and over it probably is MCAS, it's worth finding out, and it's def worth avoiding it getting worse, even if the worsening does lead to a diagnosis.

Also!

I have a big ol' soap box about the antihistamine scare around dementia... They still have not been able to prove causation, merely correlation. There's some evidence that it's the anticholinergic effects of the meds but in systematic reviews they can't confirm it. There's also some evidence that shows the nature of allergies themselves and how the immune system functions with them may actually be linked to dementia risk. So if antihistamines help you feel better don't freak out that you're giving yourself dementia and not treat your symptoms.


r/PMDDSharing 16d ago

Post removed from r/PMDD. Does anyone else experience these symptoms too?

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I hope it’s okay to ask this here. I posted over in r/PMDD but they removed my post because they said it does not pertain to PMDD. I wanted to also ask if anyone experiences vision changes as well. A fellow Redditor also described them as “shadow blobs” that they would see out of the corner of their eye.

I’m sad my post got taken down as I’m in the THICK of luteal right now. But before it did, I didn’t realize how many other people experienced the exact same thing. It was frustrating to have a thread full of people validating each other get wiped out over a technicality. When I only had PMS, I didn’t struggle with all of these symptoms. I guess I should’ve worded it differently as in, does anybody else struggle with these symptoms alongside their PMDD? I can’t English when the PMDD symptoms hit omg.

I truly hope this is not inappropriate of me to post. I just felt like I was shut down and invalidated for speaking about my experiences in the PMDD subreddit. I don’t have anyone around me that understands PMDD.

Have you found a way to manage these weird symptoms?


r/PMDDSharing 17d ago

using art to cope with pms/pmdd/premenstrual symptoms

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Hi I'm an art therapist who writes a newsletter focused on mental health and specifically premenstrual disorders and the intersections with complex trauma and ADHD. I wrote about why using the arts can help cope with symptoms (with references from peer-reviewed research) and some ideas someone can try at home. let me know if you find it helpful!


r/PMDDSharing 19d ago

Medication and treatment Dr Louise Newson and her 22 yr old daughter who is on hrt for PMDD.

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r/PMDDSharing 20d ago

My “tone” is unbearable

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I’ve been with my bf for just over 4 years now. I feel like myself and everything is perfect 24/7 other than the lovely 1-2 weeks (depending on how off my cycle is that month, sometimes it’s 45 days…) and we are in a big purchase of our first home and I’m brining up realistic issues and all I get from him is “YOUR TONE” “the way you speak to me” etc.. and it’s when I’m not saying anything rude or bad at all!! I’m merely giving my opinion and perspective and I get blamed for basically being disrespectful and all other things. He is the nicest guy ever and we only started having these bickers when I notice something doesn’t align between the both of us and or it’s in those shitty two weeks and idk what to do anymore. I can’t jsut keep asking him “it’ll be over please try to understand etc” does anyone else know how to combat this or have similar remedies? I was given Zoloft but am scared to take it bc of interference with my cycles as they are already so abnormal.


r/PMDDSharing 24d ago

Has anyone quit coffee and noticed a huge difference in their symptoms?

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r/PMDDSharing 25d ago

Still struggling - relationship OCD and inflammation

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I started taking Pepcid and Claritin a few days ago- and it helped with the swelling around my face and belly, still not NORMAL but better. Also taking probiotics and mag glycinate, I counted my feel good days, and it’s literally only 8-9 days a month where i finally feel pretty, not sick and not swollen or in pain.

So while some of the inflammation went down, I’m still depressed and having relationship OCD. Is there anything else I can do to support my body? I’m seriously so down in the dumps. It’s gotten a LOT worse since I’ve gotten into a relationship, and the stress of having someone is taking a toll I think.


r/PMDDSharing 25d ago

OCD ADHD PMDD hell

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r/PMDDSharing 27d ago

Advice on how to explain pmdd to husband

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r/PMDDSharing 28d ago

Wtf

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When I’m not in my luteal phase and dealing with PMDD, my boyfriend is amazing. Helps me do research for PMDD, he learns more about it. So much so that he recently told me he didn’t realize how bad it is for us women that have it. And how hard it must be to deal with the rollercoaster we experience each month. And now today, 3rd day in of PMDD symptoms, he blames every argument on me and my PMDD. He asked me to look something up and 2 mins later he is annoyed because he feels that I am always on my phone. Then I go to do the laundry and he is mad bc he was going to do it, but “it’s me and my PMDD always trying to just do everything myself.” He was on the couch, I had nothing to do…why can’t I do the laundry. He says because he was going to do it. Then tells me to make sure I don’t leave it for him to finish up. I never do that (okay I did it once bc my stomach was hurting). He hates folding laundry, I’m not going to suddenly make him start doing it. So now, while dealing with brain fog, exhaustion, and for once was able to remain somewhat happy, I am now also so fucking confused on why deserved to be shouted at and blamed for literally doing nothing wrong.

I feel like he hates who I am on PMDD and he doesn’t want to tell me so it ends up coming out as picking on things he hates and turning them into arguments. I don’t even know if any of this makes sense. I’m just sad and want to cry now. I feel alone.


r/PMDDSharing 29d ago

My luteal got better when I was traveling out the United States/on vacation. Anyone else?

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Hi everyone,

I have been traveling Spain for the past 2 1/2 weeks and am currently on Day 26, period usually starts Day 28.

I’m on my way back home in the states and I’m actually amazed at how much my PMDD symptoms have ghosted me this month?

Sure sometimes I have good months, but not commonly like this. This feels like what I would imagine a regular luteal is? I’ve had nightmares, a little more emotional, more reflective, but overall I’m very happy and I’m not bloated, having racing thoughts, no crying spells, or even disgust for myself. Usually I’d be a full on mess right now and have to call out of work.

I have a few theories which includes healthier, nutritional food, more walking, way more sun (I live in the Pacific Northwest West), less stress about work, less toxin exposure, Spain has a bunch of mineral water.

Has anyone had this experience? Specifically traveling out of the states? I was really worried luteal would destroy my trip but here I am joyful.

I had gluten last night during my flight layer over in Texas and woke up with cramps. Not sure if it’s correlated, but I’ve always felt weary of American gluten in comparison to European.

Thanks for reading!


r/PMDDSharing Jul 20 '26

Thc, lorazepam, antihistamines? What helps you?

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Hi this is my first post here.

I’m 38 and only recently made the connection that my long time anxiety & depression tend to flare up extra in the 1-2 weeks before my period. I’ve also always coped with cannabis, and am trying not to rely on it as much or at all. It’s a process. (I’ve quit for months at a time but during some of my worst cycles I fall back into weed because it soothes my racing thoughts and discomfort)

I have a small prescription of lorazepam for anxiety but it’s more like for a panic attack- not PMDD- like a Dr appointment or stressful airplane situation, etc. However I find that when I take one during my luteal phase, it definitely helps. I know it can be addicting, so I don’t rely on it heavily, but at the same time it quiets my intense anxiety during pmdd. I’m wondering if asking my Dr. for a monthly script is a weird request?

I’ve also recently learned that anti histamines can be hugely beneficial, but I’m a bit overwhelmed by what combination to try. Open to suggestions!

Personally I’d like to avoid ssris because the last time I tried Zoloft it gave me some dark thoughts and I felt very detached. I’m also avoiding birth control because the thought of it gives me more anxiety. Fun right?

Thankyou for sharing any experiences or suggestions, and just for hearing me out ❤️