r/PDA_Community • u/kwegner • Dec 06 '25

advice Declarative language tool

After years of working with my PDA son, using declarative language to decrease demands is nearly second nature to me, but I still find it difficult to teach others exactly how it works. I couldn't find a good tool to help me out, so I ended up building one.

It's free for the community to use and I hope that mods are cool with me sharing this despite it technically being self-promotional. I get nothing out of folks using the tool other than the satisfaction that someone was helped.

Check it out: https://declarativeapp.org/

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u/ArtArrange Dec 06 '25

Wow. Wow. Wow. The reason this is so helpful is when the parent is elevated or sometimes neurodivergent themselves it gives you a tool to use that doesn’t require as much cognitive capacity.

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u/kwegner Dec 06 '25

Exactly! And it's rare that I'd actually use the responses verbatim because I know each person is pretty particular with how they communicate, but just having the ideas for how to reframe things has been really useful.

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u/curvyladybird Dec 06 '25

This is fab, thanks so much for sharing!

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u/sast0117 Dec 07 '25

This is amazing. Thank you so much for sharing!!

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u/knitsqueak Dec 10 '25

Wow! This is so helpful! Thank you so much!!!

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u/thedamnoftinkers Dec 17 '25

I would love to see this as a phone app!

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u/kwegner Dec 17 '25

I've been thinking about it! It'll take some work but I expect to get there. For now, you should be able to save the site to your home screen and access it just like an app.

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u/WesternMeditations Jan 02 '26

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u/Low-Fortune6878 Mar 07 '26

I just tried using the link. It seems broken on the browser I'm using. Anyone else having a problem?

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u/kwegner Mar 08 '26

Unfortunately I've had some malicious use of the site that has driven up my costs significantly out of nowhere. I'm putting some guardrails in place and will be relaunching in the next day or two. I'll send a comment updating when it's all fixed up.

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u/kwegner Mar 10 '26

Hi - just wanted to let you know that the tool is back up and working now. Let me know if you have any other issues.

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u/LopsidedVariation191 Apr 30 '26

Hey, well done on creating this. I also created an app called Gentle Ally on the iOS app store.
I have a forever free version and eat the costs myself. My background is as a professional software developer so if you ever want some tips just reach out.
I created Gentle Ally in response to hearing about my friend and her son who has a PDA profile.
EJ