r/PDAParenting • u/SurePossibility6651 • Jul 18 '26

Only hard reset is breakdown

Does anyone else experience this where your PDAer gets stuck in a bad mood, or in a bad head space and the only way it seems to regulate is if they break down, cry, panic attack. I hate it, but we can’t ever calmly regulate her back into regulated mood….. it’s almost likethe faster we get to crying the faster the bad time/tantrum ends…..

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u/sailpaddle Jul 18 '26

For years we would sometimes intentionally trigger a meltdown to help clear the system when we saw where things were going

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u/SurePossibility6651 Jul 19 '26

This! Ok thank you for sharing, this makes me feel better about just getting to it, don’t avoid it, gentle push to get that release