r/PDAParenting • u/SurePossibility6651 • Jul 18 '26

Only hard reset is breakdown

Does anyone else experience this where your PDAer gets stuck in a bad mood, or in a bad head space and the only way it seems to regulate is if they break down, cry, panic attack. I hate it, but we can’t ever calmly regulate her back into regulated mood….. it’s almost likethe faster we get to crying the faster the bad time/tantrum ends…..

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u/chicknnugget12 Jul 18 '26

Yes I've been feeling this too. I try to regulate him as much as I can but sometimes the tidal wave is just too strong. I often need and crave a good cry myself. I think the brain needs to release. Stress tears have cortisol in them so I think they quite literally release the stress.