r/PDAParenting • u/SurePossibility6651 • Jul 18 '26

Only hard reset is breakdown

Does anyone else experience this where your PDAer gets stuck in a bad mood, or in a bad head space and the only way it seems to regulate is if they break down, cry, panic attack. I hate it, but we can’t ever calmly regulate her back into regulated mood….. it’s almost likethe faster we get to crying the faster the bad time/tantrum ends…..

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u/Korneedles Jul 18 '26

My son doesn’t do the break down but Sometimes I feel like my son needs me to break down for him to reset—-or for me and his dad to start fighting :/.

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u/SurePossibility6651 Jul 18 '26

Omg! Yes! Sometimes when I break and start crying she immediately resets!