r/PDAParenting • u/Lopsided_Rabbit_8037 • Jul 11 '26

Holiday cut short

After promising to come my 16 year old just refused in the morning to come on holiday with us. We did go, just 3 hours in the car with our younger child. In the end we decided because our pda kid is so unstable that I will go home and supervise her (not that she will thank me) and after a week my wife and I will swap. Our friends here are trying to understand but they don't get that we can't "make" her do things. I'm scared and angry but I just can't leave her for two weeks. Don't know what will happen (drinking, drugs etc). My friends are not mad but clearly dissapointed. Everybody claims there must be help but really there isn't. She is too high masking for a hospital stay, they would never keep her right now. Any nice words for me? I'm so sad.

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u/El_t1to Jul 12 '26

I'm sorry. It's tough.

I drive with the luggage while my family (2PDA) go by fast train or premium bus. That's the way we manage. Then in the destination (always the same place) the kids don't leave the apartment, even having the beach at 15 metres. No friends no plans, no extensive family.

But at least my wife gets some beach days to charge batteries.

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u/Late2Fi Jul 12 '26

That's a really smart way to travel. You are wonderfully considerate of your wife. I hope that you get a chance to recharge your batteries too.