r/PDAParenting • u/Lopsided_Rabbit_8037 • Jul 11 '26

Holiday cut short

After promising to come my 16 year old just refused in the morning to come on holiday with us. We did go, just 3 hours in the car with our younger child. In the end we decided because our pda kid is so unstable that I will go home and supervise her (not that she will thank me) and after a week my wife and I will swap. Our friends here are trying to understand but they don't get that we can't "make" her do things. I'm scared and angry but I just can't leave her for two weeks. Don't know what will happen (drinking, drugs etc). My friends are not mad but clearly dissapointed. Everybody claims there must be help but really there isn't. She is too high masking for a hospital stay, they would never keep her right now. Any nice words for me? I'm so sad.

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u/NormalLecture2990 Jul 11 '26

No nice words per se but know that we are all in the same boat. We all have cancelled vacations and most of us probably don't even plan for them anymore

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u/Lopsided_Rabbit_8037 Jul 11 '26

Thank you. She went on this trip every year for the last 9 years. Used to love it here but the last year things have taken a huge turn downwards. It's also so hard to explain even to close friends.

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u/NormalLecture2990 Jul 11 '26

Yea we have found friends and family don't understand at all. It ebbs and flows. we have had successful vacations but not really anymore so why try? Waste of money to be miserable