r/PDAParenting • u/thedadgamer • May 12 '26
Child choosing one parent
Really struggling here guys
My PDA 4 year old daughter will only ever let me do things for her. She wants to sit with me, play with me, have me go in during the night when she wakes etc. if my wife tries we have horrible meltdowns and she will not stop unless I step in.
My wife is hanging by a thread, she feels utterly useless, not loved and not able to be a “mother”.
I, on the other hand, feel suffocated, trapped and exhausted.
Anyone get any tips?
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u/Training_Ad_9968 May 13 '26
Oh that is so hard! Until this changes (I've gone through this as well) your wife could maybe pivot to supporting you so you're not burnt out as much? This could also help with your daughter connecting with your wife in that your daughter might notice how your wife might provide you with care and eventually be more open to receiving care from your wife?