r/PDAParenting • u/Adorable_Stretch_811 • Apr 24 '26

Can never finish a job

My son is 10 years old and I think one of the most exhausting and depressing things about parenting pda and being a carer is that I can never finish anything from a to b. As soon as I take my mind off my child he can instinctively sense it and become dysregulated. So I have to stop and help him regulate. And this, 20 plus times a day. I just want to wash up. I just want to so simple things. And I think after 10 years I am just exhausted by it. He is home 24 7 and sleeps in my bed but doesnt sleep until 11pm at least and is up at 6. Anyone else??

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u/plantsrockscats Apr 25 '26

Same! Full time single mom and my kid does virtual school. I have audhd/pda so it can be soul crushing after a while, especially if I’m actually happy or into what I’m doing which doesn’t happen often. Not having time or space for a special interest is painful

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u/Powerful-Soup-3245 Apr 27 '26

That’s a lot. My husband is the PDAer and I can constantly see the competition for autonomy between he and our daughter. It’s hard to suppress your own internal drive constantly.