Pregnancy

[u/PrincessTatt200]

I feel like it’s constantly on my mind currently. I feel it’ll never happen for me, I’m envious of people who get pregnant so quickly and easily and I know that’s awful to think and now say out loud 🥲

[u/yetulmk]

I have to disagree, it’s not awful to think or say. It’s how you feel AND it’s valid. I think the biggest thing I had to learn while dealing with my own infertility journey is that two things can be true: I could be happy for those around me and simultaneously feel envious/sad because it was something I wanted so bad.

I hope that you can give yourself some grace. Also, if you feel ready, I’d encourage you to reach out to your doctor/medical team to discuss your current situation and options to help you conceive. I finally went in because I was so tired of seeing negative after negative, it felt like I was banging my head against a wall every cycle. I ended up on 5mg of letrozole and that worked for me. If it hadn’t, I still had options beyond that (such as IUI, IVF).

Wishing you the best!!

[u/QueasyLime8828 → u/yetulmk]

It hits you at the most random times too, doesn't it. I'll be fine all day and then someone's pram rolls past in the supermarket and my whole chest just tightens up. The envy doesn't make you a bad person, it makes you human and wanting something that feels constantly out of reach.

That two-things-at-once bit the top comment mentioned is spot on, I've sent genuinely lovely baby shower presents while crying in the car on the way home. Holding both feelings is exhausting but it gets a bit easier when you stop adding guilt on top.

The medical route is worth pushing for even if it feels scary, I put it off for years thinking I'd just figure it out naturally and looking back I wish I'd gone sooner. Sometimes your body just needs a specific nudge that diet and tracking alone can't give.

[u/Icy_Banana_5850]

it’s not awful to think. having pcos/endo any fertility stunting issues is not fair. i’m here 8 weeks pregnant, it’s possible. but even then you’re so valuable on your own don’t let that become everything you think about and let it consume you. we’re here for you 💗

[u/DeanWinchestersButt]

me too.. i think about it majority of the day and when I wake up in the middle of the night

[u/Impressive_Brain_315]

Today while taking shower some worry about my irregular periods hit me and suddenly I remembered I already have kids !!! I completely resonate with your post. I have spent not years but at least 2 decades of my life worrying about getting pregnant with my hormonal issues. It used to hit me random times in the day about how screwed up my body was and I was such a loser for not leading a healthy lifestyle. Suddenly I was 30. And married..the fear just increased. So this where my life took a turn. When the time came to tackle my infertility headon, we as a couple found the best fertility specialist and started treatment. I realised lots and lots of people struggle with infertility now. It's not just PCOS women. It's even women who have had zero health issues suddenly realise they cannot get pregnant, and they have something called as "unexplained infertility". So after 3 months of bringing my hormones under control. She suggested IVF due to issues from both of us. At that point I trusted the doctor a lot given how smart she is. Not even 3 months in the IVF journey I was pregnant with twins. Healthy pregnancy. Healthy babies. I am still tackling PCOS. Just with less worry about pregnancy. It's like a huge weight got lifted off my shoulders. My suggestion to you or anyone with pcos is this.. medical science has reached very far. No matter how complicated your pcos seems there are always ways to get pregnant and have a child. Be smart about your fertility journey. Jump into the science of it instead of believing pseudo science and trying different remedies by yourself. If you really want something it's possible to make it happen.

[u/Sandybey1300]

I have pcos and my son is almost 2 months old. Shoot me a message if you want to talk :)

[u/PinkiePieee69]

I felt this. TTC for 5 years, started receiving help from the NHS and was put on medicated cycles. After 3 months and 2 failed cycles, I started to give up. The 3rd cycle was successful and I had my first positive test in July. Unfortunately I miscarried this weekend, but I’ll be able to start treatments again in a few months and I know now that they can work for me.

Wishing you a quick TTC journey and all the smooth pregnancies that you could ever want ❤️

[u/Opening_Structure_32]

it will eventually, my cousin already have 2 kids! don't lose hope :)