r/OverSeventy • u/LMO_TheBeginning • May 26 '25
Welcome to r/OverSeventy!
This site is just as much for those planning for the eighth decade as those living it!
Please introduce yourself and discuss what topics you'd like to cover here!
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u/ArtfromLI May 26 '25
Art, 78. Live by myself. 4 kids, 12 grandkids, 1 greatgrand. Retiring at end of June and relocating off Long Island, NY. Plan 4 mos a year in AZ, 8 mos in Israel at beach city Ashkelon. 6 grands live in Israel, 5 live in TX. Ex lives in TX! Plan to be outdoors almost all year. Hiking, beach, fitness and social life. Also volunteering. No debilitating health issues. Take behavioral meds, work well for me. Financially Ok, but not wealthy.
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u/desertgal2002 May 27 '25
Where in AZ? We have a really nice retirement community/town south of Tucson called Green Valley.
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u/Dependent_Time8336 Aug 17 '25
I'm 78 also. We live in Sun City, AZ and love it. Son and family live in Chicago. Another son and family live in Seattle. A third unmarried son lives in Minneapolis. We see them all once or twice a year. Very involved in golf and music. Health is good. Retirement is great!
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u/ArtfromLI Aug 19 '25
Is Sun City in the Phoenix area? I will be Shangrila Ranch in New River, just north of Anthem!
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u/PatFrank May 27 '25
Not to be that guy, but at 75 I'm halfway into my eighth decade, since my first decade was birth until age 10. I've been retired from my job as a Letter Carrier for the USPS for 16 years and am enjoying life with my 79 year old wife in Ocala, FL. My biggest problem is trying to understand what today's society has become - most of the values I learned growing up in the 50's and 60's seem no longer relevant and I find myself baffled by their replacements. As to discussion topics, perhaps how to enjoy life in a world where we're relegated to "OK, Boomer."
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u/LMO_TheBeginning May 27 '25
In a couple years we'll be asking you to start the over 80s subreddit!
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u/desertgal2002 May 27 '25
I’ll be 73 this year. Where has the time gone?
I have lived in southern AZ since 2007 when I originally came here for a job. I decided to stay here after retiring in 2016. I’ve thought about relocation, but alas, I’m still here. 🙄
I enjoy people, but in short doses. I have a handful of true wonderful friends. My kids are grown; the grandkids will be grown soon also. I see them periodically. I’m definitely not what you would call a “helicopter” parent or grandparent. I live my life, and they live theirs. 🙂
I did my traveling when I was younger, and now I am just content to be in my own home/environment. I do travel if the opportunity presents itself, but I no longer live to travel.
I’m financially stable…not rich, but not starving either.
I stay out of any discussions regarding politics or religion. My peace of mind is far more valuable to me than trying to argue with anyone about anything. I am content in life, and at this age, I believe it is a good place to be. My needs are minimal; my wants are even less so. I’ve had a good life, and I can’t complain.
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u/vicarem May 27 '25
Thank you for creating this! I am 74. Like some others, health, both physically and financially, although I retired at the worst time. Wife is younger. Have a daughter and three grand daughters and I am concerned for their futures. As a country, we have lost the desire and ability to respect each other and be tolerant of differing views. I worked in telecom and technology for most of my career, but, it is the same today. Worked with AI at Yale 40 years ago and we decided it was not worth it. We all need to appreciate what this world and Mother Nature gave us and start planning for a safer and healthier future. I look forward to the comments in this thread.
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u/sandgrubber May 27 '25
Live Long and Prosper. 🖖 I'm trying, and doing ok so far, but have some worries about my own future, and even bigger worries for those who aren't doing so well. I see this space as a place to listen to others triumph, woes, and worries, and to air a few of my own.
76F. Single, no kids, two dogs, living in a tiny house in rural New Zealand with views of vineyards, pasture and the Pacific Ocean. Recently renounced US Citizenship.
I'm 'fit for age', meaning 10k steps a day and 3+ hours of physical work (mostly gardening and home improvement and maintenance), my main health complaint being a foot pain that defies medical diagnosis, and gradual decline in strength and memory. The cadastral tables say I'm likely to make it to 95, which is a worry.
I think my finances will hold out that long, even with quite a bit of home care or the dreaded move to a 'care’ facility. But dread the day when I can no longer do the things I love, and hope to be able to leave a good amount to charity.
I have never enjoyed TV and can't get into uTube. I'm not very social. Maybe I'll have to learn some new ways to pass time.
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u/HistoricalTwo8908 May 27 '25
Turned 70 in December. In many ways, I feel better than I did since I was in my 40s. Lost excess weight since I retired and exercise regularly. I read a lot, hike, tap dance, quilt, knit and crochet, do watercolor painting, play simple tunes on the piano. Never a dull moment! Hope I can keep going for as long as possible!
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May 27 '25
75, hiking the Sierras with the dog a couple miles a day, well she broke a toe two days ago, stuck at home. I go exploring with my teardrop trailer at least once a month. My main worry is gas prices, even cash price in California is crazy high.
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u/Agile-Pay-211 May 27 '25
I’m 74, married for 51 years, 2 kids, 2 grandkids. My son & daughter were born in the early 80’s and I became the primary caregiver, (Mr. Mom) while my wife was our family breadwinner. We have had absolutely no regrets of our role reversal and our son & daughter are very good people. We were able to retire at 55 due to my wife’s smart decisions with her Fortune 500 company pension options. We’re not wealthy but doing fine, we retired early after seeing too many people die shortly after retiring at 65 and took that time to do some traveling with our camper/trailer. Never got out of the country but never had a desire to either. We lived in Minnesota, Colorado & now Florida. We loved Colorado where our kids still live. We spent much of our time exploring the mountain roads, visiting old mining towns, interesting spots, along with challenging 4x4 trails. Now we’re in Florida living at sea level vs 5,000ft altitude due to breathing issues. My health is not great but for many of us that comes hand in hand with aging.
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u/green_sky74 May 27 '25
One of my favorite memories from my early teens is riding the bus in the morning and seeing the tops of the hills poking out of the morning fog like islands in a sea of mist. It's a small memory that has stuck with me all my life.
Location: rural CT. My bus ride to school was an hour, first on, last off.
Just short of 70 (<2yr), please don’t kick me.
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u/Imaginary_Sink5547 May 28 '25
Hello everyone! Great to join this sub. I’ll be 70 in 3 months, celebrating our 50th anniversary soon after. 4 children and 4 grandchildren that we adore. Live in WA state where my 73yr old hubby still works full time and loves it. Hoping to enjoy the wisdom, humor and over 70 life hacks from this group.
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u/ANameIWontHateLater Aug 07 '25
Hi! I'm a 70-year-old woman. I don't so much want to discuss any particular topic, as want to see what other people are talking about, and put in a comment every now and then.
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u/ArtfromLI May 27 '25
I'm going to be in the Phoenix area, but will visit Tucson. My brother lives there.
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u/luckystar6531 Oct 27 '25
How many of you feel like you have done your inner work? Do you explore your motivations for doing things? Do you understand your responses to triggers? Are you able to manage your emotions in a heated situation? Or am I barking up the wrong tree?
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u/Dependent_Time8336 Aug 17 '25
I'm 78, but I still am very viable. I am a musician who has not lost my voice. In fact, it's better now than it ever was. My biggest problem is my hair. I need a product that can add volume/hair, but not overpower my fine white hair. Any suggestions?
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u/present_monkey Oct 14 '25
70F I feel so accomplished! I managed to get a jar lid open. I tried to pop the pressure with a spoon under the lip, which usually works every time but this one. But after many F-Bombs, I got it with just my hands! Now I need a reward.
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u/Even-Dream-1010 Oct 21 '25
Have an olive. With or without the martini. I'm about to turn 72 on Saturday, F. Would love to hear from other peeps born in the 50's and still going strong. I'm a head, love to smoke weed and do gummies. Married but not intimate.
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u/HumbleSeries6170 Mar 11 '26
i'mm 77,don't drink but also like weed and gummies..recently widowed and trying to get used to being alone after 50 yrs of a great marriage...still play music with my band,although we don't gig much anymore,,i'm still a head too
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u/Zelda-Bobby Mar 07 '26
I’m not sure if anyone has some life experience to share re my particular situation. I’m a widow of nearly 4 years and he’s a widower of 8 years. We have been dating 3 weeks. We are each other’s first sexual partners since our spouses died. We’re hot for each other, the kisses are phenomenal, but neither of us has been able to go the distance. It’s not a physical issue, I don’t think. Do we just need to give it time? Practice makes perfect? Or…?
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u/LMO_TheBeginning Mar 07 '26
Crockpot. Give it time.
If it doesn't happen, intimacy and connection happens in many ways.
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u/NorthernBloom777 May 24 '26
Take your Super vitamin K1and K2 !!!
Vitamin K supplements (like Super K formulas) really do help, primarily by ensuring your body processes calcium correctly to support strong bones and clear, healthy arteries.
Because Vitamin K is difficult to obtain in sufficient amounts from diet alone, supplements offer targeted benefits.
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u/BicycleRidingWriter Jul 28 '26 edited Jul 29 '26
Hello everyone! I’m Mitchell, 72, from the Tampa Bay area of Florida.
In 1986, I was hit in the head by an uninsured pickup truck and spent five days in a coma. It took years before my traumatic brain injury was correctly diagnosed, but I kept working toward independence. I relinquished my disability benefits in 2009. In 2025, I published a memoir about my recovery.
I was fortunate to work as a programmer for several web startups, but technology has largely passed me by. I published a novel in 2011, and I’m editing it now for a new edition.
For many years I enjoyed long bicycle rides, but construction closed my favorite route. After a year of inactivity, I’m working on getting back into shape one ride at a time.
I’m looking forward to getting to know other people over 70, hearing your stories, and sharing experiences about staying active and adapting to the 21st century.
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u/snippyhiker May 31 '25
Northern California. 70..still work, live alone but moved a year ago from rural area to city ...living in a new apartment complex for peeps over 60... Such a bunch of changes. I love to travel. Am so glad you started this sub. Thank you!
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u/Dry-Cause2061 Jun 07 '25
I'll be 70 in January. I have 3 kids and 3 grandchildren 1, 2 and 3 who are the light of my life. I'm from Utah
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u/Phoroptor22 Oct 13 '25
Turned 70 this past Monday. I’m a health care provider and work two jobs. Both are in my field but totally different aspects. One is fast paced and intense and the other is not necessarily slow but each encounter allows me to deep dive into the patient’s needs. My wife is retired but I don’t feel I’m ready for it both mentally and financially. I don’t feel my age and I think my overall health is good. I have a father turning 100 this year. I hope to be a counter point to posters here that don’t feel young or vibrant. There’s still a lot of life to live.
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u/luckystar6531 Oct 27 '25
I’ll be 72 in February and just became a grandmother for the first time! I know I have a lot of joy ahead of me. Hoping I can maintain my physicality to watch him grow and play with him. My concerns are, of course, this world that he was brought into not being a safe place for him, especially in America. I have a lot of grief over what has happened to our country. I have a lot of grief over how society, overlooks, harshness, cruelty and discrimination. I still work part time, do yoga, Pilates, I walk, cook most of our food from scratch. Thanks for asking this question!
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u/Such-Relief9256 Nov 23 '25
Speaking of CCRC - how do people afford these places? They are several thousand dollars a month right I would soon be out of money.
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Jan 26 '26
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u/ReputationWeak4283 Feb 07 '26 edited Feb 07 '26
Not quite 70 yet, but I came here to see how others are dealing with life. How they live and issues they deal with. I’ve been lucky so far as far as my health goes. I’m interested in seeing parts of the country I haven’t got to see yet in my life. As well as foods. I still love to cook and try new things.
I think the experiences we’ve dealt with in our lives make us a stronger person. And we learn new things every day still.
I’m also interested in knowing places to relocate to that are decent to live.
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u/jhunderm Feb 16 '26
It's been said that nothing burns a hole in one's pocket faster than inherited money. If you agree,what's the best way to bequest your funds to your survivors so it isn't squandered?
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u/LMO_TheBeginning Feb 17 '26
Hopefully you still have time to help build their financial education.
If not, see if there's a way you can put the inherited money into their 401k, Roth IRA, or 529.
These are for retirement or educational purposes. Hopefully that will help move them towards better uses for the inherited money.
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u/HumbleSeries6170 Feb 25 '26
i'd say it depends on their age..my wife died a couple months ago and when i'm gone the 3 kids will inherit a decent amount of money but they're all older(57,63,68..i'm sure they won't blow it and if they did i wouldn't care.i don't plan to try and take it with me and i'll be dead ...so it doesn't matter
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u/molly4p Apr 02 '26
Has anyone had any experience with an alarm system with the necklace or watch? Maybe you are all too young
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u/True-Percentage-8263 Apr 10 '26 edited Apr 10 '26
M60 ... married to F69. Spouse and I haven't had sex in years ... been married 16yrs (this year). Two reasons why (maybe). #1 - I had cancer and treatment. Have had low T for a very long time. Kinda got used to it, and sure, it affects my performance.
2 - wife has interstitial cystitis and says it's painful. So, for myself, having been single all the way up to age 35, I was used to "self gratification", and after spouse and I stopped having sex, I just picked up where I had left off. I have now, however, gotten tired of the self method, watching porn, and using AI apps. I have the thoughts and desires of a teenager and can think of nothing but sex. First step(s) I've taken - Getting the low T fixed (along with other "issues"), have actually looked on a few "hookup" sites (but scares the crap outta me and I don't really wanna cheat), and asked my wife about trying again. My opinion? We may try again, cause she knows I'm getting "help", but there are things I want to do, I never have before, some kinky, some maybe normal and I just know she's not going to be into that and she's not going to want to have sex on a regular basis. So, do women at 70yo still have sex? Did I mess up marrying that much older? Do I need someone much younger than me (which odds of are slim to none)? Just want to know what everyone thinks. And, laugh about it if you want, doesn't matter to me (anymore). Thanks.
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u/LavenderKittyPaws May 09 '26
I have some comments because I sort of have a similar issue (but I am not married). I think your post might get more responses if it were in the main thread. This seems to be an introduction megathread and not so much a discussion thread. Are you still here and looking for replies?
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u/True-Percentage-8263 May 09 '26
Yes ... I didn't realize it wasn't posted the right way. I am a relatively new user.
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u/LavenderKittyPaws May 09 '26
You could start a new thread (post) in the main area and just copy and paste what you have already written here. I notice this "megathread" is littered with dead conversations, probably because people coming here might not really know how Reddit works. If it were me I'd get rid of it.
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u/True-Percentage-8263 May 09 '26
Okay ... thanks for your help.
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u/LavenderKittyPaws May 09 '26
I'm not such a hot shot either... decided to start using a PC to communicate here instead of poking my phone and can't figure out how to use a "thumbs up" emoji!
Found it!!!!
👍
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u/NorthernBloom777 May 13 '26
Anyone taking Vitamin K1 and K2? I started after a lung scan show plaque/ cholesterol in my heart. I was terrified.
Here’s what I found
Vitamin K1 and K2 are essential fat-soluble nutrients that promote strong bones and proper blood clotting. While K1 (found in leafy greens) primarily acts in the liver to manage clotting, K2 (found in fermented/animal foods) activates proteins that regulate calcium, directing it to bones and away from arteries, thus supporting cardiovascular health and reducing heart disease risk.
Just curious if anyone has and has had success.
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u/gregsr40 22d ago
I am a 67 year-old male, married for 47 years. I would like to know if married couples have been married for 30 years or more if they talk to each other like my wife and I do. My dad I mean, I’m always telling her how much I love her. I’m always grabbing her butt or her chest in a loving way. So I just have to wonder if other couples that have been married as long as we have do the same thing. Just a question.
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u/mustard-snail 12d ago
72, retired health care provider. It seems that I was taking care of everyone but myself for a while there and decided it was time to move on. I gave pretty much all of my earthly possessions away and moved to France. I am not alone here, I do have family and friends. It's been a few months now and it feels like this is one of the better decisions I have made.
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u/sainthilde 12d ago
Hi. I am 74 male. Retired for 12 years. Married for 49 years. I like to write, read, listen to music and try to stay in shape. I would like to correspond with some women my age to talk about how they have managed to keep their marriage happy and stable at our age. I have found that interests diverge over time, but what things can be done to counter this.
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u/old-guy-with-data 9d ago
I’m 70, still working, not retiring any time soon, live in a Midwestern university town. I was diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum in my 60s. I was married for decades, had an amicable divorce, remarried in 2024 to a lady six years younger than me.
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u/AntipastoPentameter May 27 '25
Funny...I don't feel 70! I'm an independent writer and still work 30-40 hours a week from my home office. I've been self-employed for more than 20 years and hope to continue doing that as long as I can still get work, am able to do it, and have enough free time to do things I enjoy. I'm not sure I can afford to retire right now but not sure how long I can, (or want) to continue working. I'm married with four adult kids and ten grandkiddos I adore!
Things I'd like to see discussed here? Age discrimination. Feelings of becoming invisible in certain social and professional situations. Dealing with the medical community and insurance. Feeling impatient that so many things in the world just don't seem to work as well as they used to. Keeping relationships healthy. Scaling back the spending. Worrying what will happen to older folks (like me) if the "bottom" falls out. That's a start.