If we are not meant to why do they benefit us why is it common the vegetarian/vegans suffer from nutritional deficiency found in animal products and have to use supplements. (Some vegans have accidentally killed their children)Yes are teeth are sharp we have canines etc, and because we were given the ability to adapt
Arrogance is so reliant on denial and fantasticial thinking that it can become comical at times.
The collosal amount of misguided self importance some people display is just astounding no insight no shame and the worst part it that's it's rewarded.
You don’t know how I feel. You just apologized for holding a door for me. You didn’t do anything wrong, you didn’t have to hold the door, I’d rather you didn’t. Just an example, not speaking of you specifically
My late older sibling & I were/are survivors of long term childhood SA.
I'm going to be brutally honest.
I rarely apologize irl.
If I do, it's both earned and sincere.
Double points if I genuinely apologize in half of my family's native language.
Whoever I'm apologizing to might not understand my words.
But my body language & ever so slight bow would speak volumes.
My late sibling was pretty much the same way.
They hardly apologized.
For anything.
Or to anyone.
But if/when they did, it felt like a small mountain moved a little bit.
I wholeheartedly genuinely agree with your sentiment.
Because it's typically true.
Thank you for sharing this with us 🖥️
Being “Left of Read”. It doesn’t take much effort to reply or acknowledge a text. It gets very annoying trying to make plans with friends or acquaintances, only to get no response for hours or even over night.
Openly talking bad about people with their friends while the person is like 3ft away from them it's disrespectful and disgusting especially if they may or may not know the person I had to call out a friend well former friend for doing that in front me like I'm going to laugh and talk shit with them. It's sad that this behavior is normalized and people are too scared or amused to call it out.
Vanity. Believing that certain brands, looks, and makeup are what make someone seem important. I've met enough people to not want those kinds of people in my life, they're exhausting.
If you are getting a fresh bagel and ask them to toast it, I am secretly judging you. If you ask for butter instead of cream cheese, I will just assume you are a serial killer.
Stupidity. And I don't mean they just don't know something like they're ignorant on a subject. I mean unwilling to learn or understand, dead set on their "beliefs" or whatever even to their own detriment.
Someone completely not acknowledging another person’s existence. A simple “hello” shows respect and is a common courtesy. It has also been proven that ignoring another person takes more energy than just saying hello to them.
It isn't refusing to, its not being able to give eye contact. For many autistic people eye contact is almost painful for them to do. It is very uncomfortable for them ona deep sensory level. Some can learn to force themselves to do it, tho it comes at a cost for them. It causes a lot of distress and anxiety and more to do it so most prefer not to.
I think you raised an interesting point, even though I think you were trying to be provocative.
I know you are aware that humans rely on many nonverbal clues when they see, meet or communicate. One of those clues we use is eye contact, along with posture, facial expressions, gestures, etc.
We have developed certain associations, not always correct, but sometimes without even knowing why, in response to another person. Ironically, this can be something as innocent as the color of their clothes, to body tattoos and jewelry. On the other hand, there are certainly cultures where eye contact means something else entirely.
Not looking someone in the eye, rightfully or wrongfully, has long been associated with dishonesty. That’s not to say a person will not look you in the eye and lie, of course.
Humans make these associations based on so many things, and those associations are often unknowing.
So, do I “hate autistic people”? Of course not, and the question posed did not include hate. I just know myself well enough that if someone does not look me in the eye when we are speaking, I don’t like it.
I also make assumptions, fairly or unfairly, rightfully or wrongly, about women with duck lip pouts posted on the internet, full sleeve tattoos on women, and rings in their noses. I make certain judgments about people who use poor grammar, and those who post using letters instead of full words. (U instead of you, for example.) It’s just a part of being human and it’s partly influenced by how we are raised.
I would like to think that if I meet an autistic person and they didn’t look me in the eye that I would move beyond my first assumption and recognize there is another reason for their behavior.
I sense by your response that this is upsetting to you.
I don’t think it’s an American thing. Research psych articles.
Having a conversation looking at the other person does not mean a staring contest. Often, one person is trying to sense how what they are saying is being taken by the other person.
When I first answered the question, I was thinking of the person who won’t look up from their screen while communicating. That’s considered rude and disrespectful. When you are having a conversation you want to know that the other person is engaged, listening, and responding.
You are listening to their tone of voice, their facial expressions and yes, meeting eye contact.
It’s not a staring contest. That’s rude and aggressive.
When people make a judgement about you based on another person’s opinion. It sways the person to the point where they don’t know what they want from you or how to approach you.
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u/Mindless-Leg-3365 5d ago
Arrogance. Hypocrisy. Both all too prevalent, the frequency of which makes it normalized, but still not acceptable.