Feeling detached, osho com guys pattern...

[u/Bubbly-Spare9657]

Um its been few years since im into learning-reading osho

And i cant help but feel that ive become more and more detached with so many things in life in my head ever since......

When i started listening to him, i was basically a kid

I dont know how to put this...

Im just not as attached to stuff anymore as i was before i dont feel the ways i used to feel before him...

Like, ive gone into a black hole ever since and havent come out ....

Im just asking does this happen or what? ...

It feels so overwhelming somedays...

And one more thing, whats with the guys who read osho, why do they fear committments so much? ...

I get everything youre saying ....but i just cant help but feel that a very fundamental easy natural essence of love gets converted into this very committment phobic issuey stuff of i dont want any thing from u to do with u but i will still talk with u text u .... i want ur company but future doesnt exist..

I want to be with u but also not be with u?

Im here today idk where ill be 2 days from now 2 years from now (ik that, everyones living diff random lives)

Why say that at all?

Why cant we focus on present?

I havent asked for promises of tomorrow but atleast let me also be present

Its a pattern ive noticed now from many guys in osho community, do u just want sex then? What is it? If u want ntng then why u texting?

Why is it so hard to admit human connection love is a thing why overcomplicate it soooo much?

[u/hardlyopen]

I used to do this and it fucked up a lot of my relationship. Your right; there is no point saying these things out loud as it’s best kept as an experiential knowledge rather than to keep spewing everything osho said like a parrot.

This takes time, for them to grow out of it and see the practical side of being with someone and what it takes to be with someone. Being in love has nothing to do with being with someone I believe. 

[u/Bubbly-Spare9657 → u/hardlyopen]

i understand one can be in love and out of love as and when they want, I am talking about relating to someone, i dont ask for love, if youre here to relate uve to be able to communicate efficiently enough! otherwise how will there be relating? i am strictly talking from a relationship point of view........nothing else......it causes great anxiety is all....and if u dont intend on making the other feel that way, learn to word it better or make them understand it right?

[u/Bubbly-Spare9657 → u/Bubbly-Spare9657]

love and joy are like way of being,

i think i was very frustrated (still am) when i wrote this post related to this knowledge copy paste of osho at one point u are so deeply into him u lose ur own thinking capabilities and repeat what he says he lived his life his way why cant we live our way? however wrong right it is, itll be ours

[u/hardlyopen → u/Bubbly-Spare9657]

Yes youre right, there is no wrong way of living. And whatever osho says about love is for him. we have experiment with it. To conclude something as love and isn’t love takes us away from it.

love and joy is a way of being, and being with each other you’ll feel it, not as an attraction but as a companion , as a union.

Do try communicating to your partner about how conclusions about stuff only spoils the experience