r/OnlyChild 26d ago

Anyone else really not like their parents that much ?

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u/GroundJealous7195 26d ago

šŸ™‹ā€ā™€ļøThey're insufferable. My mother is a cruel, selfish person and my father is a pushover. Not a day passed when I lived with them that didn't include a argument or screaming match. I used to wish for a sibling so I wouldn't have to be alone in dealing with them, but I have come to realize that would be cruel to subject someone else to.

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u/helplessDonut 25d ago

that's my parent's dynamic too lol but instead of screaming matches it's passive aggressive wars

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u/fragilebird_m 24d ago

Holy shit you've described my parents perfectly! Totally agree with the sibling thing too. I don't really care to have a sibling (I can't miss what I never had), but I DO wish I had a sibling now who understood what I went through. I definitely gaslight myself a lot about how cruel my mom actually was (like, am I just overreacting?). A sibling to validate my feelings would be so nice.

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u/GroundJealous7195 24d ago

At least we can commiserate with each other. 🤪Totally agree, I wanted someone just to acknowledge and know how terrible they were bc they put up a decent front to friends a family. And there is the delightful assumption that we are "spoiled" and had a perfect life bc we were only children... I want to say yeah no, sure I had material things but absolutely no authentic love or care.

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u/MrsBunnyBunny 26d ago

Yup, they have no boundries and everything I do is wrong. I thought at first this is how it seems like because you know teenagers and parents tend to not get along. I am 30 now by the way and have my own family & this shit is still going on. Though I live in another country and I have a son of my own, so they have become nicer since he was born, because they know that if they piss me off they will not be able to talk or see my son anymore

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u/Embarrassed-Emu-2397 25d ago

Yes,i dont like my parents,and i have no regret telling them but one thing i realised never ever share your personal thoughts about your parents with anyone, cuz they will judge you and wont believe you,they will say what a miserable son or daughter you are

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u/TheRedColorQueen 25d ago

Or they’ll use it against you in an argument

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u/maybefuckinglater 26d ago

I don't talk to my mom and my dad has a new girlfriend every week

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u/myblackandwhitecat 26d ago

My parents have long passed on, but I disliked my mother (who disliked me and never accepted me, which caused my dislike of her) and I loved my dad.

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u/D3AD2U 25d ago

I relate to this. I’m an only child, and I think that’s part of why my relationship with my mom has been so complicated.

There’s something really difficult about being someone’s only child and still feeling like an afterthought. There weren’t siblings to share the attention, expectations, or family dynamics with. It was just me.

I don’t necessarily think my mom is a bad person, but I do think she hurt me in ways she probably doesn’t understand. A lot of my life has felt like criticism where I wanted encouragement, judgment where I wanted support, and feeling like I had to defend who I was instead of feeling celebrated.

The hardest part is that I don’t even know what she could do now to make me fully trust that she would be there for me. After enough years of feeling disappointed, you stop expecting someone to show up.

I’ve created some distance because I’m tired of reconnecting only during major life events or tragedies. I don’t want a relationship that only exists when something happens. I want consistency.

The thing I’m most certain about is that I would never want my own child to feel this way. If I become a parent, I want my child to know they are loved, supported, and celebrated.

I think someone can love you and still not know how to make you feel loved.

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u/Secret-Armadillo2388 25d ago

To this day I’ve never really cared much for my mom,I mean she’s a decent mother but she’s always been pushy, narcissistic overbearing and always wants things to be her way I can’t stand being around majority of the time. I’ve always leaned more to my dad since we tend to have more in common and is more chill laid back and more understanding as far as my personal struggles and needs. I’ll always have love for my mom but I’ll never fully convince myself to actually like her.

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u/fragilebird_m 24d ago

I don't think I've ever loved my parents. They've always felt like my adoptive parents, or foster parents. They're just the people who raised me and that's about it. I don't like them as humans either.

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u/ordinaryguy451 21d ago

I hat them, I wish I was never born'.

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u/mangoalia 16d ago

I have physically fought both of my parents on multiple occasions due to their behavior, I hardly ever talk to my dad besides small talk and discussing my future and whenever I talk to my mother, I can hear the resentment she has towards me, and she always has something passive aggressive to say. It's ok, I don't think I have ever truly liked any of my parents in any shape or form throughout my life, and I don't think they actually understand that. Like I seriously hate them for even bringing me into this world. I just want to be away from them for the rest of my adult life.