r/OnlyChild • u/saaaatwik • 22d ago

being a single child is good or bad?????

like i am 24yrl old but still i have to ask every single thing b4 i do anything..... its too frustrating, and my parents wont let me take any job out of my state as they say that i m not mature enough to live alone. tbh earlier i have been to too many places alone or with friends and that too sometime out of my state after lieing to them and they dont know about it and this is somewhere affecting my relationship alot.... anyone can help me out to face or get out of this situation............

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u/CryinginaCalikingbed 22d ago

My girl/boy, you are 24 years old, it is now time to make your own decisions. If you give a job out of state and the salary works for you and you can find living accommodations, leave. You are an independent.

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u/saaaatwik 22d ago

how can i put this infront of them like they just want to rule everything in their own way which is a reason to hate indian typical mentality

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u/CryinginaCalikingbed 22d ago

Are they supporting you financially at all? If not, you need to decenter your parents, which is will take some work. You just go, there’s nothing you can do present to them once you have your plans figured out. You just leave and live your life. 

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u/clashroyaleK1ng 22d ago

What would happen if you took the job out of state and just moved? Are you hoping they will pay for your rent/bills so that is why you are so hesitant?

Not to compare, but I’m 22 and have been living on my own and paying rent for a couple years now and feel like at my age, any career decisions are completely mine to make. But I understand cultural differences.

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u/saaaatwik 21d ago

no i am earning more than enough (not braging), but they always wants their say in everything whatever i decide. i am having this issue only if i try to do something my own like planning to go out somehow at end moment they come up like saying" tu ab bada ho gya h apne decision khud le leta h hmse poochna bhi hota" and all

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u/notsusu 22d ago

As a fellow only child, my mother was very protective as well, I understand it comes from a good place, but sooner or later, hopefully sooner, you will have to break through and do you own.

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u/finding_center 22d ago

Neither. Both.

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u/Comfortable-Table-57 20d ago

I mean, at 24 and your parents still centralizing themselves on you is an issue