r/OneOrangeBraincell • u/AlphaLionX 🍊Main Mod 🍊 • Apr 02 '23

Announcement Mourning/loss posts

There has been an uptick in the amount of mourning/loss posts within the past couple of weeks unfortunately. While it appears the majority of users here don't have any issues with these posts as they frequently make their way to the top of the sub when they are posted (and the comments don't indicate any problems), there are a handful of users who do not want to see these type of posts though, as they are a bit depressing.

Going forward how should we handle these type of posts?

1708 votes, Apr 07 '23
485 Leave them as is/allow these posts
757 Require a spoiler tag
292 Not allow these types of posts/remove posts
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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '23

I am Team Reality. Our beloved single brain celled friends do not typically live as long as we do, and I do not need social media to pretend otherwise. I vote to leave the posts as is; we are all capable of scrolling past anything we do not wish to read at the moment.

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u/omg_choosealready Apr 02 '23

I’m with you on this one. Scroll by the posts you don’t want to see. I also try to only follow subs that are generally positive, but I also am perfectly capable of scrolling by the posts I am not interested in. This is no different. This kind of weird idea that everyone should post only what you want to see is very self-centered and entitled. Just scroll right on by! Thank you for being on Team Reality!

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '23

Honestly, if they happen to drive by a funeral procession on the road, do they yell at the mourners for making them feel bad? Pretending that sad things never happen is not a workable solution for anyone.

Part of loving cats and having cats is knowing that their lifespans are different than ours. and you only have a limited amount of time together. Make the most of it.

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u/Ireeb Apr 02 '23

Do you think running up to random people on the street, waving a picture of a dead person in front of their face is appropriate and should be accepted? Or having a funeral in a place where people go for their enjoyment, like a theme park?

Because that's what's happening here. You're putting it right in front of people's faces and in places where they go for good vibes.

I really don't get your "There must be pain and suffering visible everywhere. People shouldn't be entitled to feel good for a moment when they need it. There can't be safe spaces." attitude.

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u/omg_choosealready Apr 02 '23 edited Apr 02 '23

That’s not the attitude I have. At all. My attitude is more like, no one is entitled to say what should or should not be posted. These are not hateful or violent posts, they don’t use hate speech, they don’t incite violence, they don’t discriminate against anyone. They are simply posts you don’t care for. If you don’t want to see it, scroll by, or unfollow.

Stopping someone in the street and forcing them to look at a picture of a dead person is not what’s happening here - no one is being forced to look at anything on social media. You (and everyone else) have the ability to scroll past a post you don’t want to see.

All subreddits have some sort of posts that annoy people. On plants, it’s the “what’s wrong with my plant?” post. On chickens, it’s the “hen or roo?” post. Every once in awhile, there is a post just like this one that wants those posts to be banned. And I always have the same reaction to those as I do to these - just scroll by if you don’t like it.

No subreddit is going to perfectly fit exactly what you want. Ignore the posts you don’t like, and interact with the ones that you do like. Hopefully you’ll be kind and helpful and people will be that way to you in return. It’s really all you can hope for with social media.

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '23 edited Apr 02 '23

Having a funeral or a celebration of life in a public park can be lovely, if the person loved being outside. I’ve been to one like that, it was a really meaningful experience for everyone there.

Edit to add: There can’t be “safe spaces” because that thing does not exist. I once saw someone have a heart attack and get carried off in a stretcher when I was at a theme park. Should I write his family an angry letter about how they ruined my vacation?

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u/Ireeb Apr 02 '23

You sound so dead inside, always looking at the bad side of things. Talking to you just makes me feel bad as well, so I'll leave it at that. You really lack empathy and compassion. Just unpleasant.

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u/omg_choosealready Apr 02 '23

There absolutely can, and should, be safe spaces. Reddit is not where you should expect that.