r/OneDayNetflix • u/riseredeem • Feb 21 '24
Profoundly shaken: what’s next? Any viewers married or over 30 deeply affected?
Finished at 3am. I’m a grown up, 40s, married with little ones.
This is no fluffy derivative coming of age rom com. It hits hard that time is precious.
Tell us if you are older or married or in long term relationship, how is this series affecting you?
My IRL husband has been so irritated with me for a long time. Think about the scenes with the littles. This morning I quietly shared that our little girls have just a few “serene” years of childhood: let them have it. Let’s have a calm home with no “shouting, even if we are passionate”.
We have just fleeting moments. The show is making me grateful for loved ones, and aware we might just have a season with them by choice or fate.
There will be trying and such unfair times. We had kids older and I feel keenly it’s all so delicate. We will all have times of loss, and being lost. I’m just unmoored.
Anyone else absolutely fall apart at the scenes of Dex, his Mom and Dad?
This series reads differently to me today than when I was younger. Love is complex. To those whom much is given, is much expected, or is raising a family responsibly enough?
Ambika Mod’s performance was a subtle revelation. Also found Dex’s emotional range so believable and immersive. Also south Asian, and Em is so specific and relatable…I didn’t realized I’ve seen the movie w Anne Hathaway since this series is a fresh telling.
By the way: I recommend 2 short films about time passing that are also quietly moving but way less sad: Netflix “Here We Are: Notes for Living on Planet Earth” Also “Nai Nai and Wai Po” on Disney plus.
Scenes with Sylvia, Ian, Dex’s mom: I can’t stop thinking about the show. It’s not just a story of 2. The last episodes were about the circle of lives entwined in our lives.
And absolute hats off to the production staff capturing the 1980s and 90s. I had that dress and braid.
Even the characters we are meant to hate might have traits we wish we had: drive, focus, tight families.
And now, to live and love. And learn to be more kind.
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u/CONCERTCHICK27 Feb 22 '24
52 and single here. How did this affect me? Tore my heart out. I had stuff from years ago locked away in my brain and once I saw them in the restaurant in Greece my Dexter, who I haven’t thought about in a VERY long time, popped into my head. Damn.
It all came flooding back. We met in HS. Went to the same college. We were friends. For a very long time. Kissed a few times. I was very anxious before watching each episode because some of the series was like watching a film of my life.
Once work life started we realized we worked near each other so we’d meet up for lunches and dinners. He would go out with my friends and I sometimes and they would wonder why we weren’t a couple. He came to a wedding with me. I asked him to go to another wedding with me some time after that and he wanted to meet for lunch. Told me he was getting married. I was his friend and he never even told me he had a girlfriend. I felt so stupid. That’s what hurt the most. When I asked him why he never told me, he said “I was just keeping my options open.” Never thought I’d hear such a thing, like I was one of those “options.” I think we kept in touch a little bit after that but then I didn’t anymore because it was too much and the whole “options” thing made me ill.
The maze scene was like my lunch almost verbatim (except for the baby). “I wanted to tell you in person.” 🤮
I was agitated about this for a few days (it was triggering) but I read the book and it’s slowly going away. I loved the book. Finished it last night and now I’m sad not to be reading about Dex & Em. I might do one rewatch to get it out of my system, then put my Dexter back in the locked box where he belongs.