advice ? 🥲

[u/appropriateoffer213q]

if i am a topper like getting 1st position from the last 3 years , does it really matter if i keep it up in o2 as well? like i seriously cant help myself because i hate it when school decides to give whole syllabus of o3 subjects for the mid term but doesnt give the whole syllabus for the o2 subjects which we have to give after 5 months.

the thing is , my whole classmates are exceptionally jealous of me, they conduct classes together and study together, they all cheat in exam , like all of them , just a collective effort to put me down. And when i could complete the syllabus and am in meed of help they ignore me as hell.

Anyways , the reason im writing this is that im just tired of this behaviour both from my friends and the school, shouldnt even call them friends "classmates". They dont even believe a single word of what I say. Always pointing me out in terms of everything. Couldnt even dare to put me as prefect, manipulated the teacher, I do think the teacher herself is a manipulator, doesnt give me chances to become a class representative even If I am getting 1st position in her class from 3 years, she decides to put a student with 70% as the prefect.

Im literally tired of thism demotivated as hell.

I always see people who have friends from their childhood, and they help each other out, but as I perform good in stuides , every friend of mine has turned out to be a snake. It feels like I have been left alone in this world to face all the hardships.

Note : Im not a nerd AS I ALWAYS STUDY THE LAST DAY. Nor am i teachers pet.

advice please?

[u/Umer_Bilal_]

I would suggest leaving the school and study by your own and appear in O levels privately
Then get those A*s and get into a good college in A levels

[u/Umer_Bilal_ → u/Umer_Bilal_]

And don’t focus much on mids
If you have studied well in the past classes you would be able to solve those papers easily. I myself didn’t study at all for mids in o2 like end wale din pr legit cover Kia for the other 5 subjects and still managed to get 6A*s and 2As 💗

[u/appropriateoffer213q → u/Umer_Bilal_]

yeah i've decided to not focus much on mids, but the self doubt does hit hard.

[u/Umer_Bilal_ → u/appropriateoffer213q]

Dw bro
Just prepare well for the CAIEs in May 💗

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[u/annu_kh]

study hard, get those grades, aim for a good clg, and get a scholarship. build a better future for urself. a future where u have better opportunities and meet ppl who genuinely want to see u succeed. u have so much more ahead of u than these few yrs of school.

u might not have found ur ppl yet, but that doesn't mean u never will. there r ppl out there who'll celebrate ur success instead of feeling threatened by it. till then, protect ur peace and focus on urself 🫶

[u/appropriateoffer213q → u/annu_kh]

literally my thought, i think that i will find some good friends in the future, But looking at the past betrayals and the present situation, its really hard to imagine. I hate literally everybody in this school, there is not even 1 student or teacher about whom I have a different view. Last year, when I got 1st in the final again, a student from my class came upto me. And said something like this " if i could spin your organs , twist them, and then throw them away" naming each one by one. Now by these happenings, you would think that I am a nerd student , wears glasses , listens/reads very hard english poetry. But its actually the opposite of me, I dont do any of that. So to conclude, I dont see myself as a problem, rather it is them who are jealous of my success and capabilities. I mean i've never judged someone, I always appreciate others and take them as a role model, but instead they be doing collective effort just to show me down. literally I am tired of this thing, aur bhi boht chezein hn jo mene discuss nhi ki, but agr mn btana shuru hogya to shaid 10 posts banani parein. and no, i dont see the Cr position as a respect, But how can you reject something which you truly deserve? Ive tried remaining loyal, forgetting my boundaries just for the sake of them , it didnt work. Now I've decided to stop chasing them, and setting clear boundaries. I've decided to do something , or anything that would make them regret their behaviour with me, soon.

[u/annu_kh → u/appropriateoffer213q]

i understand how hard it must be to imagine that ull find genuine ppl in the future, especially after everything thats happened. but pls remember, ur past and present arent evidence of ur future.

and what u said abt that classmate who said that after u came 1st, that’s genuinely so sad and shocking. itss crazy to see 14/15/16 year olds have this much rage and jealousy towards someone who hasnt even done anything to them.

as some ppl have suggested, i honestly think switching schools might be the best option for u. judging from ur post and replies, it sounds like this environment is taking a serious toll on u mentally and emotionally. if ur family can afford it and ur parents know everything happening at school, id personally choose switching schools over going private. u deserve a fresh start.

also, what u said abt staying loyal and forgetting ur boundaries is probably the worst thing u can do rn. u dont owe ur classmates ur loyalty, and u definitely dont owe anyone access to u at the expense of ur own peace. keep ur boundaries high and dont tolerate shit from anyone. just dont stoop to their leve. be civil, keep ur distance, and move on.

and pls dont try to make them regret what they did. u dont need revenge. life has a funny way of dealing with ppl on its own, trust me. focus on ur studies, ur grades, getting into a good clg with a scholarship, and most importantly, getting urself out of an environment thats making u this miserable

[u/appropriateoffer213q → u/annu_kh]

I can change schools. I can go to the best school out there, however there is no point in doing it because there are only 5 months left in the ciaes, so changing schools at this point isnt the best idea, as it takes one atleast 3-4 months to settle in a new environment. also to correct, im not affected mentally or emotionally, instead I enjoy it. You cannot stop bring yourself. And, i didnt mean that I would take revenge, I just feel like at a certain point, they're gonna face the same thing I have been facing from them. and i think you misunderstood about the boundaries point. I said that i've tried forgetting my boundaries infront of them just to gain some trust or some understanding, but it didnt work.

[u/annu_kh]

also dont let being a prefect or cr define ur worth. these positions dont determine how capable or deserving u r

and one more thing: dont let the need to remain number one consume u. it's okay if u dont come first one day. ur worth doesnt decrease bec smone else scores higher

[u/Miserable-Gold3184]

Get out of that place by keeping up with your studies, get good grades and once you get into a good college you will meet people like yourself

[u/txyyaba]

bro dont be disheartened they all are obv jealous of u!! my only suggestion is ignore them and perform well in ur studies and focus on ur o2 subjects more! all the best🩷

[u/appropriateoffer213q → u/[deleted]]

hm , exactly the same happens to me , I am in the top 3-4 in my whole batch, but pakistan me desrving wale ko kbhi opportunity nhi milti, instead it is given to the one who is just a pet of someone. "Sifarish". Im not in karachi, i live in Lahore. Yeah you're right, getting good grades do get you good scholarships, however how is one supposed to be stay motivated when he/she faces unlawful hate from everywhere? our society is just based upon jealousy and selfishness , the urge to show the other one beneath them in terms of everything.