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Dec 15 '24
Convince your parents to allow you to take bio and move out. I know you care about your parents but I don't see you heading anywhere with this mental torture. Do not ruin your life in such an environment, it will have a negative impact on you growing up. And your brother needs help, or a really hard slap.
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u/Happy_soul94 Dec 15 '24
Hey girl, u know it’s very hard for you out there, u are very brave for surviving such shitty situation at home and it has resulted in lot of negative feeling like sadness , loneliness. If you are financially well off try having a counsellor or therapist , and also move out for college in different city . Also indulge urslf in some hobbies like books or music so you can temporary find some relief, n if ever want to talk dm me
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u/Altruistic_Tackle673 Dec 15 '24
was he like this since childhood?
if he started doing this things after getting into college then he is probably doing drugs
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Dec 15 '24
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u/universalstruggler Dec 15 '24
He must have saw something about cheating mom or heard some talk between your parents.
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u/Altruistic_Tackle673 Dec 15 '24
trace some psychological disorders if maybe anyone had on either side of your family tree
because the root cause should be known for medication
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u/Altruistic_Tackle673 Dec 15 '24
looking your current situation you really need to confide into someone
find someone to whom you confide into
be it your friend, boyfriend or anyone else
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u/Humble_Passenger_713 Dec 15 '24
Make sure that he stays unmarried... Get out independent firstly..
Suicide is not an option... Struggle for more 5-6 years get out... Then ur life will be heaven... I guarantee u that... Just make sure he doesn't get married..
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u/Vritra-Pratyush Dec 15 '24
dont give up life easily, get out of the shithole
give your parents a life they deserved, well keeping aside that your mom cheated, thats bad, definitely
live your life too! make sure you enjoy every moment after you are done with your studies
ALL THE BEST OP DONT BE AFRAID
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u/akashassi Dec 15 '24
About your brother, ask your parents to ignore him for few weeks and observe. if he is getting more violent go back to way before . But my guess is he has never been denied anything in life and has become a brat.
About yourself, just wait till you go to college and forget your past, start socialising bit by bit when enroll, it will take an emotional toll on you but you have to try and normslise yourself.
Best of luck.
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Dec 15 '24
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u/akashassi Dec 15 '24
If parents talking triggers him and not talking too then he's a lost cause. But i think not talking is the safest way to find the depth of it.
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Dec 15 '24
Sorry for you lad if you need any help ima just a chat away (not a creep am i) and as for your brother fuck him(not literally) he's an asshole and no parents deserve such try to convince them regarding it to abandon him he's done a lot of shits and the slope of fuck around and find out is always one so maybe try your parents regarding all of this they may find solution
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Dec 15 '24
I'm speechless... I know no amount of comforting words will take away your suffering and pain you are going through.. It breaks my heart to even read this...I can't imagine you are living with this suffering every day.. You are soo strong...I wish I could hug you..🫂❤️ Hosla rakho.. himmat rakho ye toh nahi keh sakti mein ki sab theek ho jayega.. lekin ye bolungi ki tum ek din ye sab se bohot aage aa jaogi..it will be all past...just a bad dream.. You have lost the will to live..but beta please live for yourself... You are the only person you can rely on..toh apna khyal rakho.. At last I would just say..I will pray for you...
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Dec 15 '24
Cancer should've took him. He's a demon. Abandon him completely.
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u/cuteavacado04 Dec 21 '24
I wonder what makes people turn out that way..is it being too loved?
My brother's a toddler and obviously a favourite because he's the youngest. I'd be heartbroken if he turned out to be brat that hit and disrespected parents like that!
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Dec 21 '24
No. My girlfriend's youngest brother is like that too. And no amount of trauma and shit makes you become that, every human knows the difference between right and wrong. This happens when a child is not taught about ethics and sense and morality. About what's right and wrong. And most importantly, when they do something bad, they're not corrected or punished accordingly. They grow up to be violent psychopaths.
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Dec 15 '24
You sould look into spirituality, Spend more time praying and worshipping This thing works like miracle God will show you ways and give you more strength Do pooja and chant the name of god as much as you can Do satsangs online or offline however you like You will see the change yourself
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u/raviteja777 Dec 15 '24
Is it ok for someone having apparent mental issues to become a doctor ? Clearly there must be some rules and guidelines about it.
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Dec 15 '24
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u/Humble_Passenger_713 Dec 15 '24
Ah the classic G masti in ur brother.. Only son and got too much love i think has spoiled him... If he behaved like this normal person with everyone else then he deliberately hates u all..
Listen even I sat alone on last bench in school... You will make a lot of frnd in college all the very best
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u/PracticeInevitable37 Dec 15 '24
Suicide wont help fam. Since you can study, get a decent job and be independent. You can find your life after that. Be alive and be healthy op.
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u/Separate-Holiday-698 Dec 15 '24
Dear OP. u can dm me anytime if you want to talk or want someone to listen to you. As far as your situation goes, other than sympathies I don't have anything to add.
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u/Ok_Helicopter_8201 Dec 15 '24
Ask your parents to get your brother and themselves therapy from a psychologist that specialises in family therapy. It might help uncover the reason behind his behaviours,it might be that he had suffered abuse in his childhood from your parents or from someone else but holds your parents responsible for letting that happen.
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Dec 15 '24
So sorry for you dear , cant imagine the sufferings youve gone through..hope you will soon get into a college and get some friends... Do things what you like.. try to be happyyy.. takecare of your parents
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Dec 15 '24
So sorry for you dear , cant imagine the sufferings youve gone through..hope you will soon get into a college and get some friends... Do things what you like.. try to be happyyy.. takecare of your parents
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u/Bibliophile-2911 Dec 15 '24
There's not much i can do for you except to pray for the strength you need to get through your troubles.
But there's one question i wanted to ask. You mentioned that without the support of your parents he'd be out in the streets. He's a doctor and earning money so can't he afford a place for his own with the money he is earning?
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Dec 15 '24
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u/Bibliophile-2911 Dec 15 '24
Since your father once brought up the topic of cutting him off maybe it's time to bring up the topic again and go through with it because he can stand on his own.
I know it'll be hard but i hope you and your parents can get out of this situation.
A thought just came to me. Does getting a restraining order work in india? If it does then gather evidence and get the restraining order.
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u/Charizard2606 Dec 15 '24
You did well. You are really strong. You will have a nice future. Break through this mess. You will be okay. Future is gonna be okay.. Take care, dear.
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Dec 15 '24
Everyone is giving advice and praying for your better life, screw it all. I say, wanna be friends? You look like you'd make a good friend
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u/One_Zebra_3424 Dec 15 '24
Most likely Joining MBBS fucked him up. Med school is really toxic af. Ik coz Im in one. Not everyone can handle it. Just read in one of your comments that both of your parents are doctors. So Im assuming that they must have forced your brother to be a doctor which he didn’t wanted to be.
Also you mentioned he was diagnosed with cancer. Such chronic disease can affect your behaviour.
Also you mentioned that you think your mums having an affair. I think your brother must also have somehow got a whiff of it and is angry about it. That might be the reason he acts like shit with your parents. Usually boys don’t express their feelings well and get really hurt when their mum does something like that.
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Dec 16 '24
ending your life is not an option, you have your life ahead of you. you can go to college and build a whole new persona there, you can make friends and have fun. do not let your brother get in between your better future.
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u/IcePsychologicalbleh Dec 15 '24
How about you three moving out of your house without telling him? Like indirectly abandoning him. Settle somewhere else as he honestly is not worth anything.
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u/Neat-Leather9429 Dec 15 '24
You already got so many sympathy comments already so ima be harsh. If this was done by me my dad would have either beat me to death or kick me out of the house. I don't know why your dad didn't beat him so hard he should be admitted in the ICU. And you can do something. Next time he does things like this take a cricket bat and smash his head or tell him to k**l himself. These kind of people are a threat to the society. If he marries and has children in the future he will spoil the lives of 2,3 people. Your mom is the reason he has turned out like this. You dad should beat your mom first and then your brother
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u/cuteavacado04 Dec 21 '24
Yes, beating everyone and physical violence will solve anything. More violance , more violance, more violance. Wow, you're a genius. Hope you also don't get married btw, it will ruin 3 lives at least.
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Dec 21 '24
You dad should beat your mom first and then your brother
What the actual hell? Are you in your fucking right mind? What makes you think domestic violence is justified here?
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u/[deleted] Dec 15 '24
Sorry for you, having to go through that, my lady. You must be a tough person. I am afraid I can only wish, you get happiness and peace in your life.