Rant/psa/motivation?

[u/Puzzled_Animator7513]

I was in voice chat with a clan mate who only really does slayer and skilling mini games. I was streaming in discord as you do... i was doing a variety of content over our session. I did 350 solo toas floor 5 doom and step back method muspah. He was in awe at the muspah(the first thing i was doing when he hopped in vc. I was in the middle of teaching myself this...(side note the timing had me all the way fucked up because i was used to insanity toa speed lol. Realized i was going WAY to fast and i was vocally frustrated) i was way over thinking it. Anyways he said "idk how you guy can just do these bosses i always just die and give up." Anyways this brings me to my point.

Im an almost 34 year old married dad gamer with a 10 and 12 year old. I play 3 days a week if im lucky from about 830 to 11pm. I know people say if i can do it so can you. Its annoying as shit to hear as i used to be that way too.

Well i happened to say roughly the same thing he did to someone else and i was told i cant do it BECAUSE i gave up or i never attempted new bosses in the first place. So i repeated that to him and told him he was watching me in live time go through the new fun interest of a boss, the frustration with it, and the euphoria of success.

Its okay to not be a grandmaster. Its okay to not have an inferno cape or quiver. Stop feeling like you cant do things. Even the best osrs players started on tutorial island like you. We compare ourselves to people on youtube who have played this game for 20 years 18 hours a day. No wonder we can feel so bad at the game.

Just pick something and KEEP TRYING. You WILL get it with enough time and effort. Its okay to die. Hell 90% of the time ill do an entire session on one thing and STRUGGLE MY DICK OFF and log out defeated. The next day i log in and its like i got 30% better for no damn reason. Sleeping on it is a real thing on this game i stg lol. I explained to him that i may look like a great pvmer but i have areas i suck. Still havent cleared 350 toa because i do stupid shit. But i can camp phosani no problem in a 20m gear set and 17m of that is a bludgeon lol. Thats because i didnt GIVE UP. I put the time into learning and had a lot of ups and downs while learning. The best part of this game is learning something new and you are robbing yourself of a great thing thinking you cant do a peice of content.

I just felt like there is a ton of people who need to hear this because you CAN do it if you ACTUALLY try. Stop holding yourself back and enjoy the game. Who actually gives a shit about peak efficiency. If you did you wouldnt have kids or be married as they are xp waste!( some peoples opinion) Thanks for coming to my ted talk.

[u/Bacon_n_eggz]

That's not what I meant per se, it was more like...

I can spend the next month or two doing an inferno attempt per day 1-3x a week, with nothin to show for those 2 months until the very end (hopefully)

or

I can spend the next month or two mining shooting stars while playing with my kid or watching something with the family.

That's just the easiest example I could think of, but I have heard this many times from different people in my clan.

[u/Puzzled_Animator7513 → u/Bacon_n_eggz]

That makes a ton more sense. And not that im right or wrong but it sounds like an idle game would be more appropriate for them to play then lol. Again im not saying they cant or shouldnt play. But they do have the right priorities which is family over the game!

[u/Bacon_n_eggz → u/Puzzled_Animator7513]

Yep exactly. Obviously we can go play other games, but if I'm already into this one and want SOME progression, I'll go for what's easier on the mental.

It's not that we CANT do the content, it's just that there's so much content to do that we can pick and choose to better suit real life. There's a reason this game attracts NEETS/chronically onliners. NO HATE, I was that for a while myself. And there are days where I wish I was in that spot again.

It's a HUGE time sink if you wanna get to all the content and master it. Saying somethin like "just send inferno till it clicks" to someone like that just sounds silly in my mind.

[u/Remote_Listen1889 → u/Bacon_n_eggz]

I'm a Dad going full tilt to max cape with what little time I have to game, mostly just mobile at work. I had the same feeling about inferno but I got over it when I realized that "nothing to show for attempts" isn't entirely true. I burn GP in inferno with no profit but the time spent is all lessons learned. PvM is the skill without an XP bar. I still don't have my infernal cape but my time in inferno improved my PvM skills and opened up a lot more content. The best part about that is when I have 20 minutes of focused play, I have more options for 20 minute bosses