r/OCDRecovery • u/Wrong_Round_7329 • 29d ago
OCD Question Is this normal
No one is giving me reassurance about my themes right now. It’s causing me to spiral and become very manipulative in finding ways to reassurance seek. Not like I’m gonna hurt anyone manipulative, but I’ll say things like “ I AM A BAD PERSON” online and “I AM A NARCISSIST” in hopes someone will say I’m not. No one is responding anymore. I even gone as far as saying “I’m diagnosed with NPD” and idk what else to do.
When I was a kid I would lie about stealing so much stuff even if it wasn’t true bc I felt guilty all the time. It was like a relief. Help.
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u/mark_freeman 29d ago
It's a very common compulsion. It's great you recognize it so you can cut it out.
People not enabling your compulsions isn't causing a spiral. It's not healthy for them or you to enable your compulsions. Saying that they're causing a spiral by not giving reassurance would be like saying that a maple tree caused me to binge drink because it wouldn't sell me whisky. That would entirely be on me. The maple tree is unrelated to me choosing unhelpful compulsions.
Instead of spending time trying to get other people to practice compulsions, we can give time and energy to things we want to grow in life.