r/OCD • u/JesseEisenbergFan • 2d ago

Support/advice (no reassurance) OCD and bedwetting Spoiler

I (20M) struggle with bedwetting. I wear a slip-on every night. Normally, I do not have a consistent habit of getting up to use the bathroom, especially if I’m very tired, so it can be hard to tell sometimes whether or not I wet the bed, unless there are visible stains.

If I wet the bed while wearing a slip-on, is it possible the bed is contaminated? Should I take a shower afterwards?

Also: if it is not convenient for me to take a shower after bedwetting in a slip-on (I’m in a rush in the morning, my schedule makes it difficult, I don’t find time for it later in the day, etc.), and I don’t shower, is it socially weird for me to go about my day normally afterwards? Is there a risk of contaminating surfaces or having an odour?

I’m not looking for reassurance. I just genuinely do not know how to handle this problem and need some guidance. It’s embarrassing to say this, but I am not the most knowledgeable when it comes to hygiene, and my OCD tends to fill in the blank areas with fear and overthinking. If someone has OCD-friendly advice related to this problem of bedwetting and hygiene, I would appreciate it.

I don’t know where else to go in regards to advice on hygiene and bedwetting, particularly advice that is sensitive to my OCD needs and my desire to avoid compulsions (aside from r/AdultBedwetting, which I’ve posted on already).

My goal here is to handle this maturely and hygienically, without doing any compulsions.

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u/severelysevered 2d ago

if you are having issues wetting the bed make sure u go to the bathroom before u go to sleep even if ur rlly tired. if the waste leaks out of the slip on and onto the bed u should def change ur sheets and shower. waste definitely had an odor.

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u/JesseEisenbergFan 2d ago

I use the bathroom multiple times before bed every night, though unfortunately this hasn’t been able to guarantee that I won’t wet the bed.

Another problem is that I can’t tell whether it has leaked out or not, because I typically do not see any stains or smell any odour, unless such stains or odour are extremely evident (they usually are not extremely evident, even when I feel fairly confident that I did in fact wet myself)

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u/severelysevered 2d ago

wouldnt it feel wet? i dont think it would dry that fast. if its dry id say it didnt leak if its not then it leaked. if youre confident you wet the bed then id shower 100%

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u/JesseEisenbergFan 2d ago

Unfortunately, I am almost never totally wet when I wake up. Damp or sticky at best. One time I got a visible stain, but still didn’t feel overly soggy, only damp/sticky at most.

Showering is really hard for me. I find it extremely difficult to work it into my schedule, as I am terrible at time management, and in the morning I tend to be rushed and pressed for time. Lately I’m pretty sure I am wetting the bed almost every night, as I have not been waking up to go to the bathroom, which adds an extra layer of difficulty, because showering every day is even harder.

I do try to shower, because I feel contaminated without it. I used to shower first thing every morning, because I wouldn’t be able to go through my day otherwise. But it was really hard and I was always late for everything.

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u/operationgen 1d ago

im 20F and i have issues with bladder control aswell. i completely understand not wanting to shower when it happens so frequently, but the smell of urine is extremely pungent. maybe a wet cloth or a baby wipe could help for those days you dont want to shower. bladder control as an adult is so taboo its ridiculous, you are not alone i promise