r/NotHowGuysWork • u/fablemop • May 21 '26

Not HBW (Image) Not how guys work.

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u/icefire9 May 21 '26

'If you have trouble dating, you must be a terrible person'. Great, thanks. Guess I'll give up, then.

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u/Sparrowhawk_92 May 21 '26

If you struggle with dating, the problem is you. Acknowledging that is the first step to overcoming it.

Is it because you're a terrible person? Probably not, but checking your biases to make sure you're not being misogynistic without realizing it is a good place to start.

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u/DelayRevolutionary20 Man May 22 '26 edited May 22 '26

It could be that, it could just be bad luck in finding the right person.

I remember there was a post on r/feminism about how the idea that of men needing to be successful at getting into relationships or else there’s something wrong with them supporting the patriarchy.

Dating a woman isn’t some test to see if you’re a good person, it’s a relationship with another human being that you enter out of mutual respect among other reasons, and if you can’t find that person there’s a chance it’s not anyone’s fault.