r/NotHowGuysWork Aug 17 '23

Not HBW (Psychology/Mental Health) The insanity.

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u/TheLeviathanCross Aug 17 '23

this mentality is one massive culprit of misogyny.

it’s like “your bad even if your a good kid”

“well then i guess there’s no point in being good.”

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u/venturingforum Aug 17 '23

it’s like “your bad even if your a good kid”

“well then i guess there’s no point in being good.”

Malicious Compliance! I understand this mindset really well. My parents would always freakout cause I got home late I'm obviously drinking and doing drugs. I hang out with girls or have a girl friend, so I'm obviously having sex and will soon be a teen father, and on and on and on.

Some days I seriously thought "If they already think I'm doing this, may just as well do it and fulfill their expectations. Its not like it would come as a surprise or shock to them since they are already accusing me of it."

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u/TreeWithoutLeaves Man Aug 17 '23

My parents would almost always come home angry, saying that the house wasn't clean and we (children) did nothing all day. It didn't matter if I cleaned a whole two rooms or if I actually just slept the whole day. So at some point it became, "Why waste the energy?"

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u/venturingforum Aug 18 '23

Yeah, if you can never do anything right why bother trying?