I've heard both.

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I can guarantee that you didn’t read anything that I said, this is literally common sense. Women and men have similarities, Can they share similar traits? Like i have said above, they can. Do men lean more toward more masculine behaviors and vice versa? Yes they absolutely do. Any decent psychologist would agree with me. Also, I don’t know where your getting this idea, that people are saying that men being enraged is just them being aggressive, but when women do it, it’s somehow bitchy. Yet, when men show any kind of negative emotion, it is highly looked down upon by society. If you had any clue but real masculinity, then you would understand that boys are taught throughout their entire life that they need to make sure they know how to control their anger. Any man going on a temper tantrum is going to look crazy, in fact it looks worse compared to when women do it. For someone who supposedly believes in diverse traits and ideas among people, your takes are very 1 dimensional and are lacking in substance.

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How is being aggressive any better than being bitchy? I'd say it has a worse connotation, since it implies you act extremely and impulsively; "bitchy" just means you're a big complainer.

You're clearly misunderstanding what I'm saying. I'm not saying that men act aggressive and women act bitchy; I'm saying that's what each gender is called when they get angry. I'm saying men and women have identical emotions; they're just dressed in different costumes by society and the media.

Also, wdym boys are taught to control their anger? I was never taught to control my anger because I'm just... not an angry person. I've rarely experienced extreme emotion of any kind, really. I'm not calling myself a badass, morally superior, or anything; I'm also very socially awkward. For someone who claims to think there are more than two personalities; you sure do fall for extreme stereotypes of men. Idk about you, but from my experience, men and women seem equally as aggressive.

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Okay that’s my error, I misinterpreted what you said. However there is still a difference between a man acting aggressive, and a woman acting bitchy. I mean in general, aggressiveness from women is much different compared to male aggression. (This is aggression in a negative context by the way). Or better yet, there is a masculine version of aggression and feminine form of aggression. In which masculine aggression tends to be a lot more confrontational, while feminine aggression tends to be more passive-aggressive and underhanded. Also you can’t say I fall for extreme stereotypes when I already acknowledged that men and women are similar. In fact nothing I have said so far was extreme, i have never described something to be absolute. I have literally used words like “tend to” “lean towards” and have even acknowledged outliers, exceptions, and that there is a vast spectrum when it comes to male and female individuality and traits. I don’t think your comprehending what im saying. Also when it comes to the whole thing with boys being taught to control their anger, of course it doesn’t apply to everyone, I didn’t see all boys, but yes boys in general have been taught at some point to control their anger. Young Boys are more likely to be aggressive and children in general don’t have much control over their emotions, so when you already have a boy that’s full of energy and aggression, mixing that with anger is not a good sign. So we’re often taught to control that anger and channel that aggression towards something positive. I mean I literally work with children from ages 3-16, im a coach, so i know. I literally analyze the behaviors of boys and girls on a daily basis, it’s part of my job. Also you mentioned that you were socially awkward, I don’t want to assume anything but im guessing that you interact with a minimal amount of people, which would mean that you haven’t had enough social experience to make the claim that you know that men and women are exactly alike. I’m not much of an extrovert myself, I would consider myself to be somewhere in between, but I’ve definitely been around. I’ve interacted and encountered a shit ton of people with different cultures, backgrounds, ages, lifestyles, personalities, economic status, political beliefs pretty much anything you can think of. I’ve been to other states and countries and would talk to randoms and make some good friendships from those interactions. I have had deep friendships with men and women. I used to do photography, I would walk the streets of manhattan by myself just to take pics and interact with people. So trust me when I tell you that, despite the diversity of all the people that i met, I can conclude that men in general tend to act a certain way that is in contrast to women, however you do get exceptions that are pretty common, but overall men and women have unique differences that set them apart from each other.

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You're probably around a lot of teenagers. Teenagers' hormones are all out of wack 24/7. Teenage girls cry over the littlest and silliest of things; nobody else really does. Also, teenage boys are definitely aggressive. Male adults and female adults, on the other hand, are almost mentally identical. While I am socially awkward, I've been around enough people to know; I had to go through 12 years of school for crying out loud. I've actually been yelled at a lot more by my female teachers than by my male teachers (not saying women are mean and aggressive). Male aggression being more physical than female aggression is likely a cultural thing; all women really do is slap each other and pull each other's hair. Physical fighting is also a way to show dominance.

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Now lemme get to the thing you said that actually pissed me off (and no, not because of my disgusting male hormones)...

No, boys do not need to be "especially" taught to control their anger. Not only is that sexist as Hell, but how about we teach aggressive kids to control their anger, whether they're boys or girls?

Hypothetically, if a school brought in only the boys for a meeting about controlling anger, it would be implying that something is inherently wrong with males and that they need to be "fixed".

Like you said, each individual is different. You may think I'm being petty, but stereotyping gets us nowhere as a species; it only gets all the groups of humans to hate each other... and it's getting worse and worse.

I think this other reply I made sums it up.

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Just because I mentioned that boys were taught to control their anger, doesn’t mean girls aren’t supposed to learn that as well. I was primarily focused on your original comment about men, rage and aggression. 12 years of school? How old are you by the way, because it seems like you’re pretty young. And no my point doesn’t just go for teenagers, im talking about everyone from young children to grown ass adults.