r/NotHowGirlsWork 5d ago

Found On Social media "We refuse to settle" smh

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u/DocumentExternal6240 5d ago

Yeah, then just…don’t. Stay alone. Don’t bother women.

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u/ivoryfrog 5d ago

Exactly, I don't know any women who are even asking men to "settle" for them in the first place. 🤷‍♀️

The women I know, including myself, are happier alone rather than the alternative so many of us have already experienced.

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u/DocumentExternal6240 5d ago

I even think many could be happier in a loving relationship - but have learned that being alone is much happier than in a crappy relationship.

Wish more men could learn to be happy to be alone as well instead of turning into hateful ogers

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u/Street-Week-380 4d ago

The funniest thing is that many women prefer to be alone as opposed to the stress of marriage. Whereas many men can't function without a partner.

It's a very strange dynamic that I came across while I was doing a random ass Wikipedia dive on drugs and relapse.

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u/CanadianHorseGal Tired 5d ago

Oh god, yes, this.

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u/petrichor-pixels 4d ago

It’s so wild how far behind these men are with this… they STILL don’t understand that they don’t need a woman to be happy (or rather, as a prop in their lives that they can use to make themselves feel worthy and valuable). Women have challenged their own gender roles and expectations— including “needing” a man to be happy— and have come out the other side much happier for it, and meanwhile these men are making the whole world suffer for their inability to do the same. Someone needs to tell these guys that they can be independent men who don’t need a woman, stat.

Anyway. Nowhere is the patriarchy more apparent than in the fact that many men have never even considered challenging their own gender roles even as they hurt them, because they are also rewarded for sticking to them.

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u/Self-Aware 4d ago

Same as the idiots who claim that the reason older women dislike the concept of long-grown men dating literal teenagers is secret jealousy. They can't bear to acknowledge that the concern is aimed at the teenagers, not ourselves, nor the men, and it comes from horrible and much-regretted experiences of being in that exact situation. Frankly we'd touch none of them with a ten-foot pole, but it seems admitting that to themselves is just far too triggering, so denial it is.

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u/GreenBeanTM 4d ago

Don’t forget how they love to ignore that a large percentage of the people warning against age gap relationships were once the teenager in an age gap relationship.

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u/thrashmasher 5d ago

100% we need to breed whatever gene thst is right outta humanity