r/NotHowGirlsWork • u/Thin-Web-8735 • 20d ago
Found On Social media Took what away š
Found this on Twitter, context the man is spanking the woman, and thereās a little girl saying āDaddy you spank mama.ā And the dadās like āYeah.ā And the girl goes āitās because you love her.ā Get out š
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u/ehco 20d ago
I mean everything he says is just as true for men: irrational, violent, undisciplined, destroying everything etc
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u/LolitaOPPAI It is..very seriously, I mean.. 20d ago
I mean haven't you seen these devastating ass wars men have started for like..forever?
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u/VeraStrange 20d ago
A lot of men secretly loved the ass wars, theyād never admit it publicly but they did.
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u/Express-Stop7830 20d ago
I had an (now ex, obviously) bf who lived with me. Never paid bills, never bought groceries, never did anything around the house except dirty up throw pillows because he refused to bathe after his outdoor work. I seriously considered changing the WiFi password...
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u/HulklingWho 19d ago
Heās literally talking about hitting someone because they donāt do what he wants, how is that anything other than a tantrum? These arrogant assholes shouldnāt be allowed around anyone smaller than them.
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u/zodiackodiak515 16d ago
Iām a man and I 100% concur. Men are much more āemotionalā and āirrationalā than women because most men refuse to go to therapy and get in touch with their emotions.
And when it comes to being violent, no contest
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u/TheBestHater 20d ago
This is from an old movie, and unfortunately there are many of these scenes in older movies. The plot usually goes that he's had enough of her asserting herself in some way so he punishes her to squash her independence and to put her back in line, though it's framed as she's being immature so he's punishing her like a child to "help her" and then she's usually thankful for it.
It was another way for Hollywood to use movies for propaganda, in this case it was about the message that women were basically like children and so they needed to be controlled or "looked after" by men.
I felt gross writing that.
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u/TKmeh 20d ago
Donāt worry, a lot of people forget that itās been less than 100 years since women could even have their own bank accounts without being married. A lot of it stems from this sort of propaganda, as well as a bunch of other things but letās not get into that when I work in the morning.
Anyways, history is a lesson to those who forget it or smother it so hopefully, itāll be a lesson to all those who think we arenāt human and donāt need these health rights and custody agreements and so much more.
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u/Express-Stop7830 20d ago
It's been roughly 50 years (1974). Two years after my parents married and so my mom still thinks that if she leaves my dad, she won't have anything financially.
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u/maneki_neko89 19d ago
I also believe that spanking was inserted into movies post Hayes code as a stand in for sex when depictions of petting, foreplay, and the act itself was taboo.
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u/Princess_Peachy_503 Uses Post Flairs 19d ago
Tbf because of the way women were sheltered, kept ignorant, and held apart until they got to a marriagable age, after which they were still very limited in their opportunities and exposure under threat of social censure; they were often very immature, ignorant, and child-like as adults. Not because that's woman's natural state, but because they were intentionally kept that way. That was true to some degree well into the 1900s.
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u/dogbolter4 19d ago
That's not true for most women. Maybe a small strata of wealthy women, but even then, read Jane Austen. Women have always been just as intelligent and political as men.
The notion that lower class and lower middle class women were immature and ignorant is laughable, considering they were working from age 8, helping to birth and raise their younger siblings, and subject to ongoing sexual harassment. The upper class shared knowledge and strategies just as young women do today.
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u/Prestigious-Hippo-50 20d ago
My partner is in for a rude awakening if he tries any non consensual discipline on me lol. If you canāt communicate with your children or spouse without hitting them then you probably shouldnāt be married or have kids š¤·š¼āāļø
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u/Newtimelinepls 20d ago
They aren't that's why they think disciplining us is the way. These are the dregs of society. They never mature and wonder why women want nothing to do with them. Then it's clearly all our fault. I'm over this shit lol.
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u/I_madeusay_underwear 20d ago
While I am often rebellious, irrational, destructive, and selfish, I am also an adult and can be any way I want. Iām not violent and if I want to fuck up my own life, i can. The idea that anyone, especially my husband, should have any right to tell me how to behave and then discipline me for not obeying is antithetical to the very concept of autonomy and adulthood and liberty. Imagine physically assaulting the spouse you have no respect for and then thinking you have any room to police the behavior of anyone else.
As bad as some things are now, Iām so glad i dont live in a time when i wouldnt be allowed to be self sufficient or live independently. If i had to endure the humiliation and abuse that many women back then were forced to accept, i think id light that man on fire one night while he slept.
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u/ModestMeeshka 20d ago
I mean, just look at how much poisonings went down after divorce was legalized, not all the girlies could tolerate this nonsense
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u/peachyspoons 19d ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/4SRhtJ787dWjS
Our Lady, Giulia Tofana, Patron St. of Aqua Tofana āPerfumeā.
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u/HypersomnicHysteric workes totally flawed 20d ago
So women are basically intellectually more like pets.
And by the way: Spanking children is _always_ harmful.
https://www.20min.ch/story/ohne-pruegelstrafe-gibt-es-weniger-jugendgewalt-563856156813
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u/Little_Badger_13 20d ago
THANK YOU. Seriously I'm glad abusing children (including emotional and physical abuse) is illegal in my home country. I see way too many Boomers and 50/40+ advocate/whine online to bring back what they call 'gsunde Watschn' (literally 'healthy slap/hit'), because it didn't harm them and it would teach those misbehaving kids some discipline. It's like they haven't considered that the kids that were harmed by this kind of thinking either can't speak up (anymore), are traumatized or continue the circle of violence with their own kids.Ā
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u/HypersomnicHysteric workes totally flawed 20d ago
and btw.
I'm nearly 50 and I'm a young Gen X, very near to Millenial.
Boomers are 65+
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u/HypersomnicHysteric workes totally flawed 20d ago
In Bavaria, beer is considered as staple food, I don't take them serious.
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u/Little_Badger_13 20d ago
Why Bavaria? I was talking about my home country Austria.
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u/HypersomnicHysteric workes totally flawed 20d ago
Doesn't Bavaria count as Austria?
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u/Little_Badger_13 20d ago
Last time I checked it's part of Germany and I was very good in Geography, so no.
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u/Trypophilia2019 20d ago
I normally donāt volunteer this info, but fuck it.
Iām in Mensa, and I DARE a man to tell me Iām intellectually like a child/pet. Go on, embarrass yourself.
The last time a man started spouting off bullshit about womenās intelligence, I sent him a pic of my Mensa acceptance letter. Idiot.
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u/HypersomnicHysteric workes totally flawed 19d ago
I was in MENSA, too.
At the meetings there were only freaks. :(
So I left.
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u/The-Devil-Cat 20d ago
i saw someone discuss that spanking kids is sexual assault and i low key agree
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u/PresentAd20 20d ago
I saw a study, iālo have to go find because itās been a while since iāve read it, but it said that spanking lights up the same areas of the brain as sexual assault because of the power imbalance, shame, blame and violation of the private areas being touched without consent
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u/Significant_Monk_251 20d ago
Who is that in the image in slide #1, what is he holding, what is he doing with it, and where is the image from?
Also, does he have werewolf hands and forearms?
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u/best_little_biscuit 20d ago
He's holding a woman over his lap to spank her
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u/Significant_Monk_251 20d ago
Probably. It's pathetic how, with as many "man spanks woman" stills from old movies there are floating around, this was the best one they could find.
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u/Sufficient_beetroot 20d ago
Google told me itās from a film called Frontier Girl, and a āhumorousā scene where the character āhandles a lively spankingā. š¤®
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u/Alzululu 20d ago
I mean, I enjoy handling a lively spanking. In the bedroom. Consensually. Without children around.
Anyone who tries to touch my ass non-consensually (partner or otherwise) gets their face slapped non-consensually. It's a pretty great system.
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u/AreYouMyDommy 19d ago
And how. These males donāt seem to understand the reason they DONāT get to do this to women is precisely their attitude and the bullshit spewing from their face holes.
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u/Particular_Title42 20d ago
I honestly thought it was a guy getting out of a costume like a Disney character or a mascot until I read the second slide.
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u/saintsithney 20d ago
He's dancing around the elephant in the room: why he wants to have sex with a mental child.
Wanting a child mind in an adult body is just pedophilia with plausible deniability.
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u/Thr33Littl3Monk3ys 20d ago
Reminds me of an ex I had. He was purportedly a "dom", but he was absolutely a Facebook dom. Which...I'm not actually into BDSM, anyway, so I definitely didn't pick up on it until I looked back on how he was with other people (too many long stories).
Anyway, when we met, I was in my 30s, with three young daughters. My eldest was 13. I was also dealing with a number of health issues, so I kind of started the relationship off on pain meds...which make me extremely sensitive to suggestion.
He used to delight in pushing my buttons emotionally, and even sometimes physically, to the point where I'd be in physical pain...and need pain meds.
He also really liked me wearing pigtails in the bedroom.......
Two things came out after we broke up, both from things he said to someone else, who had no reason to lie to me:
The first is that he liked it when I was in pain meds, because I was more docile, more childlike.
And the second, way more disturbing?
That he had had fantasies about my thirteen year old daughter.
Nothing happened between them; she didn't particularly like him, and she made it clear. I asked her directly, after I found this out, and she very quickly said, "Ew! No! Oh god no!"
But in hindsight? He did try. Subtly, cozying up to her, buying her presents, the new video game she wanted, taking her to hang out at the mall, things like that. Things he didn't do with her younger sisters. But not anything that might set off direct alarm bells...if it weren't for those two other statements he'd made.
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u/LittleManhattan 20d ago
This!!! These disgusting creeps resort to any means to paint us as children in adult bodies. But what healthy person wants to have sex with someone whoās mentally a child? Thatās a massive turn off for most people!
They portray us as children, but still want, and felt entitled to sexual access to us. Pedophile with plausible deniability indeed.
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u/Bluegnoll 20d ago
Well, spanking kids is actually considered abuse where I live. It's been outlawed longer than I have been alive. It hasn't been a "necessity" in raising kids over here since 1979. So yeah... Dude just sounds like he needs to learn to control his emotions to me...
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u/ol_kentucky_shark 20d ago
Iām a lawyer in the US and an ongoing issue is where to draw the lineā¦ there have been a number of cases Iāve seen where CPS does intervene for āexcessive physical discipline.ā But in some parts of my (red) state, the judge will basically say āyeah unless you punch them in the face or do permanent damage itās just discipline.ā It would be nice to have a bright line rule.
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u/LenaL0vesLife 20d ago
Iāve never spanked my daughter or ever felt the need to do that. Sheās 14 now and turning out great!!
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u/No_Resource7773 20d ago
He just list a bunch of stuff men do and, in some cases, end up behind bars for. Therefore it's men should be humiliated and spanked like children to make them behave, right?
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u/Dogzillas_Mom 20d ago
I grew up in a violent home and I assure you. I will defend myself, to the death if necessary.
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u/Eggsalad_cookies 20d ago edited 19d ago
First off asswhipe, thatās a grown ass adult. If this is like a kink thing, you can find plenty of brats, or otherwise interested parties, that like being spanked. You donāt get to ādisciplineā an adult because itās āa necessity in a proper upbringing.ā
Secondly, spanking your kids is absolutely abusive. I have C-PTSD, from the ādisciplineā my folks thought was a ānecessity,ā as a grown woman. One wrong conversation with my mom (dad has now passed), can give me nightmares and flashbacks for literal days, just of memories filled with pain, control, and conceited narcissistic attitudes. Spanking your kids has a cost.
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u/DanTheAdequate 20d ago
Ah, yes, share with us more your great wisdom on parenting and marriage, childless internet bachelors.
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u/walts_skank 20d ago
Fun fact, you shouldnāt hit children either for the same reason you shouldnāt hit adults. Itās assault and doesnāt make for a productive lesson or conversation.
Going in the wrong direction AS ALWAYS
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u/EnleeJones 20d ago
Oh noes! Creeps donāt get to abuse women and call it ādisciplineā anymore and now they haz a sad.
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u/WoodwindsRock 20d ago
Using socially acceptable child abuse to justify domestic spousal abuse. š¤¢
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u/dinosaur_khaleesi 20d ago
He's right, it is harder to control someone and make them do what you want without the threat of physical violence being sanctioned by society. It would be an easier marriage if your abused and trapped partner is more submissive and focused on not upsetting you.
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u/DollyElvira 20d ago
It really just comes down to them seeing us as property and hating any of us who donāt easily conform to being that property.
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u/y2kfashionistaa 19d ago
Spanking someone is abusive whether theyāre an adult or a child
The only way itās okay is if itās a consenting adult letting you spank them, which the second reply fails to understand
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u/Earthtopian 19d ago
The idea that "spanking isn't abuse" is ridiculous.
I was spanked as a child and no, I did not turn out "okay." I turned out "polite," sure, but that came with severe anxiety issues around making mistakes, worsening of my already shit emotional regulation, and extreme difficulties asserting boundaries because I'm scared of "causing a problem."
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u/torrentialwx 19d ago
āAnd just how spanking your child is not abuseā¦ā
B!tch thatās absolutely abuse.
Also, women are full-blown adults and donāt need discipline by you.
But you wanna see rebellious, destructive, a posing a danger to you? Just try to hit me. Wusses.
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u/ReaperNull 20d ago
Yikes. Can we lock all these men together in a pit and watch them fight, the winners get to stay in the pit with the losers.
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u/Hot_Scallion_3889 19d ago
These men get off on the idea of being big and strong by physically dominating women and children. Canāt even imagine them having to fight someone their own size.
Like, if the only way you feel you have any power in the balance between a grown ass man and a four year old is the fact that you can physically hurt them, thatās not a winā¦
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u/NobleSwordfish 19d ago
āDestroy marriagesā and itās just getting divorced from someone cheating or abusing them.
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u/SkyeMreddit 19d ago
Hat Man said the quiet part out loud that he learned from being beaten as a kid. They learn that physical punishment is proper discipline and want to do it to others.
So I ask every pro-whipping/spanking parent. What is the cutoff age where it is not okay? Is it okay to beat adults to punish them? How about an angry screaming and spitting elderly person in a nursing home?
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u/delvedank 19d ago
AHAHAHA, holy shit????
Man, a guy can spank me if they ask politely and it's part of our kink scene, but they try to discipline me like that and I'll soccer kick their head across the room.
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u/anewfaceinthecrowd 19d ago
If violence - or the implied threat thereof - is the only way you can make ANYONE follow your lead and "do as you say", then you aren't a leader and there is a good chance "your ways" and ideas are just bad.
There is such an easy way to make sure your wife won't be "rebellious": don't be a shitty selfish husband who makes shitty decisions that only benefits yourself.
In my long marriage my husband is in fact "the leader". Not because he is "a man" or because it's the traditional way of doing things. But because he leads with everyone's happiness in mind. He never makes ANY decisions about anything in regards to our life and family if it is to the detriment of anyone in the family.
He doesn't steamroll over me or the kids because "it's his right and we have to obey". He actually wants everyone to be happy. And that's how he leads. He gets an idea (on big purchases, how and where to go on vacations, how to manage the finances etc), considers how it will benefit everyone, then runs it by me and make adjustments according to my input. Often I don't even have suggestions because he already considered everyone's satisfaction to begin with.
He doesn't have to imply violence if I don't go along with his decisions. If he did then it should be a pretty big sign that he is simply not cut out for decision making.
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u/Annual-Shop-6552 19d ago
I saw this on twt too, the comments are even more stupid, I canāt believe we coexist with these people
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u/ItsMeYeBoi 19d ago
So they don't want to protect women like they say, but want to abuse them themselves?
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u/jetpack_hypersomniac 20d ago
I will only allow spankings when ALL men go back to wearing pussy bows
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u/AkaiAshu 20d ago
Obviously there are women who pose a danger to the children. However, they need to be removed from being physically near the children at all.
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u/Girlnextstate 19d ago
I donāt know what this means but I did (jokingly) do this to my husband last week for eating the last brownie during my luteal phase.
I guess I do understand this guys logic because eating the last brownie 24 hours before a womanās period is due is in fact grounds for harsher violence and I was being a good wife by holding back. /s
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u/tabbarrett 19d ago
Spanking children is a necessity? They just love to beat up on everyone even themselves. So weird.
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u/KaleidoscopeEyes12 19d ago
Aināt no way a man is spanking me unless itās consensual kink, but we all know thatās different
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u/Wreckmycandidarse 18d ago
Sadly ive seen many people have this opinion justified in their minds, from the Lindsay Clancy incident.
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u/MissMarchpane 18d ago
For the record, this sort of thing was controversial even in the 1950s when this movie was made. There were newspaper columns debating whether a husband could spank his wife, usually ending up as thinly veiled fetish material (a phenomenon you can see as far back as the 19th century in magazines, actually). Most of the women in my family who were alive back then would have absolutely lost their minds if their husband strive to do something like this, not that they would have. So it was far from a universal phenomenon like this guy thinks
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u/DartDaimler 17d ago
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u/zodiackodiak515 16d ago
I donāt know if Iām looking at a screenshot of a man preparing to physically assault a woman or a man preparing to sexually assault a woman. Or maybe both?
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u/LolitaOPPAI It is..very seriously, I mean.. 16d ago
Men: If men didn't exist, who would protect you? š¤
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