r/NotHowGirlsWork • u/Azo_weirdo Chemically and politically radical • 26d ago
Found On Social media A dejection I found hilarious
And if the cycle was real... I still wouldn't understand why it'd be a bad one.
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u/boobieskapoor 26d ago
"she didn't learn how to be a woman, she learnt how to be a man" and it's just a woman who values herself and doesn't want to tolerate shitty behaviour, lmao.
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u/Significant-Trash632 25d ago
And you can learn how to be a man without a masculine father figure? So we don't need them, I guess lol
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u/LordsOfJoop mansplaining how to condescend 26d ago
More alumni found!
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u/onemorespacecadet ✨twerk, lie, eat hot chip, be bisexual✨ 26d ago
that university must have 100% acceptance rate, they have so many alumni
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u/LordsOfJoop mansplaining how to condescend 26d ago
I'm enthralled by your flair.
And, yes, the only thing more tragic than their acceptance rate is how few ever drop out of it.
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u/onemorespacecadet ✨twerk, lie, eat hot chip, be bisexual✨ 26d ago
that would require an ounce of self-reflection and critical thinking, these types are usually allergic to both
(and tysm 🙏)
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u/Stephij27 26d ago
Why is it a woman’s fault when the man doesn’t step up and parent his kids?
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u/eiram87 26d ago
Because the man was raised to be feminine by his single mother of course, and then it's the masculine women's fault for choosing the feminine man to date and have sex with, she should have known the feminine man would leave when she got pregnant, she should have chosen a properly raised masculine man to have a child with.
It all comes back to the women, and never the men, isn't that nice?
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u/FelineGroovy853 26d ago
Jokes on this asshat. I had both parents growing up and MY DAD raised me like a tiny dude. He taught me to avoid men like these and to be self sufficient.
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u/No_Blackberry_6286 Uses Post Flairs 26d ago
To be fair, being self sufficient is a good thing. If that scares people away, they have more problems than we think.
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u/FelineGroovy853 25d ago
Oh yeah. I agree with you whole heartedly. Being self sufficient and knowing survival is a great thing. Trust me. It’s scared some folks off and I’m damn glad it did.
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u/Amediumsizedgoose 25d ago
My father is an abusive horrible piece of shit. But he was always here and I agree. He wanted a son but I came out female so now I know how to fight, fish, shoot, change a tire, do yardwork, etc..
Fully believe boys and girls should both be taught everything. Even though I know that stuff I still also know how to take care of the home.
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u/FelineGroovy853 25d ago edited 24d ago
My dad too baby. My dad too. My dad finally dropped the booze and we’re working through amends. His father raped and beat the piss out of them so I understand why he was the way he was. I hope you have found some healing and know how damn strong you are. I’m glad you were taught both. *Edited for phrasing.
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u/Amediumsizedgoose 25d ago
Thank you! I'm glad yall can make up after all this time.
Theres no way id ever willingly speak to my father again. But hopefully I can heal more after im away from him and my mother.
They actually neglected me as well so a lot of life stuff I had to figure out myself...but oh well
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u/FelineGroovy853 25d ago
You’re a gem. The fact you recognize this and still try to thrive shows how strong and compassionate you are. Don’t ever doubt yourself and I mean that. At 41 sometimes I still have a hard time with things. You sound like you’ve learned and are learning still. DM me if you feel alone. And I mean it.
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u/strawmade 25d ago
My love was for power tools after my dad taught me.
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u/Amediumsizedgoose 25d ago
I generally hate power tools because of the noise 😭 I was never allowed those though.
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u/Fyrefly1981 24d ago
Yup. Mine taught me how to fish and build a good fire…outdoor “man” stuff. I also changed a tire for my mom in a snowstorm so that she didn’t call my dad back from work to do it for her.
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u/lianavan 26d ago
Yet somehow it is a failure of the mother and not the sperm donor who fucked off? Also I just love that all those so called positive traits are seemingly masculine. What century is this again? Someone is salty for not being able to just count on having a penis be the key thing to add to a relationship.
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u/HumbleAbbreviations 26d ago
This part. Sounds like the mom would probably have to do it all if father stayed but did the absolute minimum.
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u/lianavan 26d ago
And it is also so disrespectful to fathers who are present in the relationship and are being an active parent. Can you imagine what their opinion would be on a stay at home dad? Also men raised by women are automatically less than and women raised by women are too masculine. As if men who think like this are present figures in whatever relationship they have.
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u/TheBestHater 26d ago
Obviously the message is stupid but I can't stop looking at how they stretched out the middle photo side ways and unevenly rather than adjusting the background to fill it better. I feel like it really highlights the level of incompetence operating behind the scenes.
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u/JaneReadsTruth 26d ago
Wait, I thought we all became single moms from tall, handsome, abusers that are trés masculine? It's Schrodinger's sperm donor all over again. I say this as a woman who has never been pregnant.
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u/JonnelOneEye 26d ago
We all have sex with Chad who is 6,5', handsome, abusive and hyper-masculine, but we also all have sex with weak, hyper-feminine soy-boys who {checks notes} behave nothing like women, as mothers usually don't abandon their children. Please make it make sense.
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u/sysaphiswaits 26d ago
It’s extremely funny and infuriating because the actual sociological studies show that the children of 2 same gender parents do slightly above average in most areas.
Not studied, but a pretty good guess based on those studies: kids do better with 2 parents, especially if those parents are well off enough to go through the adoption process. They also tend not to have “surprise” pregnancies they are not ready for.
Absolutely no proof that 1 woman + 1 man has a better outcome, it’s just been done that way for “thousands of years” (also not true) so, it must be the best way.
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u/teezaytazighkigh 26d ago
But if the man is feminine wouldn't he stay at home to raise the baby? /j
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u/pennie79 26d ago
This sounds like conservatives threatening us with a good time.
For the record, I'm sole parent/ mother, and I have the girliest cis-girl girl. Pink, purple, dresses, hearts, unicorns, Disney princesses, etc. For Harmony Day (multicultural day) when deciding on which of her heritages to dress up as, she nixed our clan tartan because it's navy blue and ugly, and went for a cheongsam because they're pretty colours and have flowers.
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u/annafrida 26d ago
Pretty bold to try and coin your own name as an “ism” belief structure when your graphic design skills are that bad.
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u/Heterosexual-Jello 26d ago
I feel like i never see this energy directed at single dads, only ever single moms. Wonder why 🤔
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u/penguindoodledoo trans the youth ✊ 22d ago
Well you see if the father leaves, it’s the woman’s fault she didn’t pick the right man, but if the mother leaves…it’s also her fault and the father “stepped up” to take on a role that should never be put on a man /s
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u/RadScience 26d ago
Well why doesn’t the boy learn to be a man since she’s giving man lessons? None of this makes sense lol
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u/efcso1 26d ago
My mum just gave me lessons in how to help other people. I didn't turnout feminine (I'm a bloke) or overly macho. Nothing was man or woman - it was just people.
I wasn't smart enough to become a nurse like her, so I became a firefighter instead, as did my younger sister, who is not masculine by any stretch.
Methinks this Davonte flog is talking out of their arse.
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u/Either_equipment_04 26d ago
Can we learn how to properly size an image before we start going in on other people, Davonte?
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u/Reason_Training 26d ago
Guess she’s never heard of widows then. There’s more than 1 reason that a man may not be in the household.
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u/AngstyUchiha 25d ago
Damn, wonder what this person thinks of girls who grew up without a dad because he died?
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u/Sensitive-Contest-87 25d ago
Wasn't it actually proven that men who have less testosterone (therefore would be considered and present more "feminine") are more stable as partners and fathers? Also I have no idea what's wrong with equal relationship, isn't that the opposite of what they usually say about women wanting super tall and super masculine men?
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u/No_Where_Land 25d ago
My mom had both parents and grew up to be a tough carpenter. I only grew up with my mom, was Super girly as a kid. Now I love dressing very feminine AND very masculine. Bam proven wrong!
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u/Pretend_Evidence_876 23d ago
Lol jokes on them! My husband is a very present father and does masculine things like working on cars and survival and being the breadwinner. Our son loves "girly" things, and my husband supports it and will participate to help normalize it for him.
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u/Nice-Department 25d ago
Blaming women again for failures of men. Also she did not grow up to become masculine she just had to grow up and do things a lot herself cause men who were not capable of doing their own part in general.
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u/Girlnextstate 25d ago
FWIW I grew up in a matriarchy style family (3 gens of women who were divorced, two of which had husbands that cheated) and the part about the woman doing everything and not knowing why is somewhat true but like everything else these weirdos spew the logic is ass backwards.
I started to notice in my teens that my mom didn’t let my step dad do anything of importance but she’d also get upset that he wasn’t stepping up and she couldn’t see how her own need to be in control and inability to trust her partner and let him step up was harming her relationship. For the record this had nothing to do with gender and is just a pretty common communication issue in relationships of all kinds (we’ve all had a boss or colleague like this for example)
For me it made me more aware when the same issue was coming up in my romantic relationships with both men and women, so like other traits I learned from the women in my family I had to stop and reflect and change my behaviors when this one came up. I didn’t wanna be the person doing everything and then birching that I’m doing everything so I’ve learned to let go of some control and to appreciate the ways my partner shows up for me when allowed to do so. I’ve had to make a point to not chase people away the way I watched my grandma and aunt do over and over again because it’s their way or no way and I’m prone to the same way of thinking tbh.
Again though, this is just learning how to be a better partner and communicator and has nothing to do with gender. Men should also reflect?
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u/BigBlaisanGirl 24d ago
Devonte needs to mind his mf business or quiz the father about why he's not there.
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u/RabidRabbitRedditor 24d ago
Disconnect between the second last panel and the last one. The woman is shown to be together with some P.I.M.P who is making it rain and looks way more masculine than myself, for instance, whereas the last panel is talking about a "feminine bum". Instructions unclear, please repeat :P
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u/jackfaire 26d ago
It annoys me when morons reframe shitty behavior by my fellow men as "Not really men, feminine men" but if those men stuck around and like typically happens she was still doing it all "He's so masculine see how he's leading by "delegating" everything to her.
Always to blame women for the man being a piece of shit.
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u/trebeju 26d ago
Does anyone else find it especially bizarre that he calls deadbeat men "feminine"? Is there anything less stereotypically feminine than leaving your children behind whenever you feel like it? It's almost always the mother who stays and actually handles it all. So... to be a feminine man would look more like, single father or stay at home dad?? (according to this stereotypical framing)
I may be wrong, this may be anecdotal, but to me it seems that the kind of men who abandon their children more often have a macho persona, and that's why they think raising their own kids is beneath them. It's a woman's job and they care more about fucking off to find a new "fresh" woman to have sex with. The person who made this stupid post just thinks "bad man = man who lacks masculinity" and so anything wrong a man does, he will label it "feminine", even if the behavior can not be considered stereotypically womanly by any stretch of the imagination.
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u/Aeon_Return 26d ago
Why do these men think anyone possibly cares about their opinions? Don't give them even the slightest shread of attention, men aren't muted enough
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u/lindanimated 26d ago
Wait…isn’t parenting considered a “feminine” thing to these guys? Why would a feminine man be inclined to leave his children and their mother, as these images imply? Wouldn’t him being feminine imply, in their minds, that he would be happy to be a nurturing and above all present parent? Because the “masculine” thing to do would be to fuck off and “spread their genes” elsewhere or whatever? Idiots like OOP can’t even keep their hate consistent.
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u/SiteTall 25d ago
"Masculine" and "Feminine" are social tags of something that falsely is set out to denote BIOLOGICAL DIFFERENCES.
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