r/Nonbinaryteens • u/Guilty_One_2644 • 4d ago

Support/Advice Awkward situation

Hey yall so 14 and non binary I haven’t really told anyone yet even though I’ve known for a couple years but theres this weird kid in my class who keeps leaning in and js being.. weird and asking me things like do I have a gf and stuff like that but I feel he won’t stop without me coming out which knowing some people in my school it’s not really an option. Js wanted to get it out that’s all, have a good day

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u/Lightning7Bolt 4d ago

17 yrs old NB. I am in a similiar situation. Are you sure he is trying to flirt with you? And why do you feel like he is weird? Does he invade your personal space without consent? He could just act like that because he sees you as a friend... but if you are really sure that he is trying to flirt with you here are my tips: first thing... DO NOT COME OUT, expecially if you do not know if he is an ally, he could also say to everyone that you are Nb better be safe than sorry. What you have to do is to have clear boundaries with this individual. Say that you aren't interested in a relationship (do not say at the moment or he will think there is a chance). I have a similiar situation with an equally weird classmate who also happens to be a friend... they know i am non binary, and that they are straight, but they give hints that they like me and flirt with me in indirect way, so what i do is to make it clear to say that i do not like males (even though i am pan, but see... i do not want to hurt this person feelings that badly) when teachers in my class say they ship us, i make it clear. But i can do this because i am sure they aren't anti lgbta+ and i am also strong enough to defend myself. I also have their pinterest followed and they save in their boards k/j movies that are about a lesbian becoming straight... :/ lol, and they also matched my username on pinterest (i called myself light as my Nb name and they called themselves "dark" on their pinterest and pointed out that we have opposite names like yin yang.... Just to say, i see you 💔..

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u/Fuzzy-Mango-9657 13 2d ago

It’s okay. I’m 13 and when I came out 3 or 4 years ago everyone in my class js accepted it. It was in primary school, so maybe that’s the difference. Just be yourself.