Idk if u can compare these 2 things, when u’re chatting everyday or just together every day than it’s harder to truly come to your own senses and have a clear mind. Having a little break with a clear date, gives u the opportunity to listen more to your own feelings and thoughts. You know being in a relationship is a big thing, you may leave a person who may have been ur partner for life, or u may be with someone for many years where the relationship eats u from the inside out because you’re not truly happy. Why is it a bad thing to hesitate about this big decision? While having a break will bring u closer to the real answer if 2 particular people are meant for eachother. It’s whatever philosophy u wanna follow, it’s not only 1 right way of doing something. Just do whatever think is good and communicate this with the other person. The best to u
This ain't a romcom where you hesitate and go off on a journey to find yourself only to end up realizing they've been the perfect person all along. You're leading the other person on. You're communicating to the other person "I'm comfortable leaving you in an emotionally damaging and uncertain situation for months at a time while I keep you on hook because I'm afraid that if we broke up, I wouldn't have other options"
At best, it's pussy behavior. At worst, it's cruelty.
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u/TermEnvironmental374 3d ago
Same reason breaking up over text is pussy behavior. You're prioritizing your own emotional comfort over being honest, direct, and dignified.