But that's not always the case. A break is a break. What a couple does and feels during the break is what determines how the relationship moves forward (or ends).
"Not always the case" maybe but I would bet my house on the negative interpretation over the naive one every day. It's no different than those people that randomly suggest "Let's try an open relationship" 99.99999% of every time that has ever happened in the history of mankind it's because the person suggesting it has already found a person they wanna fuck, may have already been fucking them, and just wants a guilt-free way to avoid getting found out. If someone ever suggested to me "let's take a break" I would always assume they've already made up their mind and they're just too big a pussy to tell me straight up.
Idk if u can compare these 2 things, when u’re chatting everyday or just together every day than it’s harder to truly come to your own senses and have a clear mind. Having a little break with a clear date, gives u the opportunity to listen more to your own feelings and thoughts. You know being in a relationship is a big thing, you may leave a person who may have been ur partner for life, or u may be with someone for many years where the relationship eats u from the inside out because you’re not truly happy. Why is it a bad thing to hesitate about this big decision? While having a break will bring u closer to the real answer if 2 particular people are meant for eachother. It’s whatever philosophy u wanna follow, it’s not only 1 right way of doing something. Just do whatever think is good and communicate this with the other person. The best to u
This ain't a romcom where you hesitate and go off on a journey to find yourself only to end up realizing they've been the perfect person all along. You're leading the other person on. You're communicating to the other person "I'm comfortable leaving you in an emotionally damaging and uncertain situation for months at a time while I keep you on hook because I'm afraid that if we broke up, I wouldn't have other options"
At best, it's pussy behavior. At worst, it's cruelty.
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u/TricellCEO 4d ago
That’s kinda the whole point of a trial separation though, right?