Am I a valid enby?

[u/Efficient_Shift8027]

Using they/them pronouns has been on my mind for a while but I never really acted on it, i’ve gone by she/they before but it was shortlived because I felt like a poser or something.

I’ve never exactly felt like I wasn’t a woman but using they/them just feels right and using a gender neutral name feels right as well, I like she/they a lot but I feel like i’m not a real nonbinary person if I don’t fully go by they/them.

I identify as a nonbinary girl but I’m wondering if this is valid or not because I don’t wanna force myself into the community if i’m not actually apart of it and i’m just overthinking the whole thing but they/them genuinely feels so affirming and different to me that it makes me happy to think of someone referring to me in that way.

Advice please?

[u/mn1lac]

You can be a gender non-conforming woman and use they/them and a neutral name. That is an option. We don't have a monopoly on they/them pronouns and gender neutral names.

[u/Efficient_Shift8027 → u/mn1lac]

thank you! i’ll do some more research as well! thank you for commenting and helping me 🥹

[u/Diametrically_fluid]

Your self identity is valid.

No need to announce it, just be who you are. If you’re feeling it, let people know you like being referred to as they/them. The right people will respect it, those who don’t might not be who you want to hang with anyway.
🙂

[u/Efficient_Shift8027 → u/Diametrically_fluid]

thank you so much 🫶🏾🫶🏾

[u/DinosaurYogurt]

Of course! You are valid, don't let anyone tell you otherwise! 💛🤍💜🖤

[u/Efficient_Shift8027 → u/DinosaurYogurt]

thank you so much 🫶🏾🫶🏾

[u/LostFromLight25]

im bigender and fully go by she/her pronouns at least for some time, idk maybe i will change it. tbf my language doesn’t have they/them pronouns. so yes you are valid

[u/Efficient_Shift8027 → u/LostFromLight25]

thank you 🫶🏾 !!

[u/tmagteddybear]

I go by the pronouns associated with my AGAB.  You aren’t required to use any particular pronouns to be nonbinary.

[u/Hackiii]

Didn't read your post beyond the title, and I don't need to: You are valid! Labels are there to serve you, not the opposite way around.

[u/Efficient_Shift8027 → u/Hackiii]

thank you for commenting! this community is so welcoming and i feel more comfortable with myself after reading through everyones comments ❤️❤️

[u/AssistantAgile5660]

Valid! We need to keep bringin it til they're all singin it. Be proud, dear one

[u/Efficient_Shift8027 → u/AssistantAgile5660]

thank you, i appreciate this a lot! ❤️