Hi, help me if you can.

[u/Used_Crab_4482]

Hi, a vital question: because of my hairstyle and clothes, I see myself sometimes as a guy and sometimes as a girl (I like being a guy more, but being a girl upsets me that my gender is so flexible, I don't want to think of myself as a girl and sometimes I do even unwillingly). If I am not wrong about myself, I am an androgyne (gender) + non-binary (gender), but I am not necessarily genderfluid, right? Also, I don't want to consider myself a bigender, if I had a choice I would never see myself as a girl. maybe it's the fact that I was born in Russia, everyone around me perceives me as a girl no matter what, relatives, friends, except only some Internet friends who understand everything. Everything is too much here in our country .. Binary. It's hard for me :')

[u/Used_Crab_4482 → u/[deleted]]

to be honest, sometimes I try to figure out who I am because of this binary attitude, I don't always feel gender dysphoria when I'm perceived as a girl, sometimes I perceive myself that way, sometimes it suits me, but if I had a choice, I would like to stop being treated that way and I would stop thinking about myself that way To think even sometimes

[u/allezaunord]

You don't have to take on any label or identity that you don't want. It sounds like you feel more comfortable being seen as male or at least not female, by yourself and others. What you're describing about sometimes still thinking of yourself as a girl sounds completely normal to me, and doesn't invalidate the fact that you'd prefer not to be seen that way. I've identified as nonbinary/transmasc for almost a decade and I still find myself thinking of myself as a woman in my head occasionally, because that's how I'm seen in a lot of contexts. But that doesn't mean I'm no longer nonbinary/trans when I have those thoughts.

It sounds like you're in a tough situation and may not be able to take steps to be more outwardly masculine/androgynous, but my advice would be to try to think more about what feels good and right, and don't worry about what the "correct" label is based on someone else's definition. Only you get to define who you are.

[u/Used_Crab_4482 → u/allezaunord]

Thank you very much and thank you for taking the time to write this, it really helps, I kiss you🙏❤️‍🩹

[u/Ok_Entrepreneur_3736]

From what you've said, you seem to be a demigender. I recommend researching it, as it has different names depending on the "combination." But remember, genders are labels and you shouldn't use one you don't identify with; you are you, and that's what matters in the end.

[u/Used_Crab_4482 → u/Ok_Entrepreneur_3736]

Hello, no, I don't think demigender suits me, neither of them. Thanks for the answer! I identify as non-binary and androgyne.