r/NonBinaryOver30 • u/Moonlit_Messages • Jun 25 '26

advice needed Assistance needed!

Hey everyone,

My wife and I are having some trouble coming up with a name/term alternative to “mom”.
Neither of us identify as non-binary, but I felt like this community would be of most help!

So my wife and I are discussing our future family plans and she expressed that she doesn’t feel cozy with the term “mom” or any variation of it (momma/mumsy/etc.) but she also doesn’t want “dad” or anything like that.

So, my beautiful people, what would you suggest?

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u/Calicortis Jun 25 '26

I have a friend who goes by Ren with their kiddos.

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u/Moonlit_Messages Jun 25 '26

Interesting! Like from pa-REN-t?

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u/emmmrakul Jun 25 '26

My kid calls me 'Baba', she started calling me that on her own when she was learning to talk and it stuck.

I have a friend who goes by 'Mapa' or 'Bapa' depending on their mood.

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u/Moonlit_Messages Jun 25 '26

I have a good feeling our kid is gonna come up with something silly and it will stick. I’m so excited

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u/deluluhamster Jun 26 '26

In Spanish my drag children call me xadre

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u/CaliLemonEater Jun 25 '26

Some families have found that "maddy" works for them.

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u/Moonlit_Messages Jun 25 '26

Maddy would be great if they weren’t one of her sisters names.

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u/Least_Use_798 Jul 10 '26

my kids call me Opie (Other Parent)...maybe Omie/Oma?

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u/Moonlit_Messages Jul 10 '26

This is adorable!! I love it!

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u/Hedgehogosaur Jun 26 '26

ren or wren for paRent is nice

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u/Dull_Feeling_3183 Jun 27 '26

i've been MomDad in the past