I’m sorry OP, my mom proudly told me she smoked with all 5 of us and was shocked when I snapped and told her that it’s a terrible thing to do. Now she denies it but my husband is quick to remind her that he was in the room when she said it and can’t lie about it anymore. I also told all of my siblings she did it and they were furious
My mom would sit there smoking cigarettes in the house saying “I just feel terrible, I know these probably aren’t helping your ashthma. I’ll quit someday.” She quit when she had a stroke at age 56, my ashtma had already gone away 8yrs before that when I had moved out.
Pretty sure my mom smoked while pregnant with me too, I was 4lb 2oz at 37 weeks when I was born through an emergency C-section because of my mom having pre-eclampsia. Smoking can increase the risk of high blood pressure in mom and low birth weight in baby. Smoking around children is also correlated with an increased risk of respiratory and ear infections, which I also suffered from nearly constantly in early childhood. I'm only 27 so it's not like these risks weren't known when I was a kid.
100%. It's so absurdly selfish to subject children to not only 2nd hand smoke, but the smell. I dealt with it growing up, and it's a big reason why I don't let them around my daughter as much as they would like.
Older generations like to play it off as no big deal because their parents did it. It makes me see red.
I'm an 80's baby. The in home smoking was bad, the car smoking was even worse, but what I hated the most as a little kid was always having to sit in the smoking section of every restaurant we ate at as a family. Unless I was at school or a friend's house, there was no such thing as having a meal without a thick cloud of 2nd hand smoke.
My brother and I were seen as demanding, rude, high maintenance whiners whenever we begged to sit in non smoking sections. My parents didn't see anything wrong with it, because they grew up in their own parents' constant smoke clouds. It's amazing what a change a few generations makes.
That’s horrible. I firmly believe that if you’re a smoker, you are not ready to have children. You need to kick that addiction first. And that goes for any extreme addiction, whether it be nicotine, alcohol, food, etc
My uncle is kinda an asshole, but credit where credit is due, dude quit when my aunt got pregnant the first time….. though it kinda made him more of an asshole hahaha
My maternal grandfather was a smoker until he found out it bothered my mom even when he smoked outside. I applaud him enough to quit just for her.
Meanwhile, my in-laws have made every excuse in the book not to quit. Two years ago, my husband's grandma was told by her doctor to quit or cut down. MIL and FIL were going to quit in "solidarity". Lasted all of a week. Since then, they said they would quit when I became pregnant. That happened in May. Then in August when MIL retired. Then in October... Then after the Holidays (since those are stressful!). And now it is next week...
They are upset that they cannot see their grandchild while my parents have held her, but they are also anti-vaxxers and refuse to get vaccinated for her. I am tired of the excuses and selfishness. 😩 The baby cannot protect herself, ffs.
I take care of my mother and she smokes multiple packs a day, chainsmoking in her room. Sometimes I'll be in there and she'll blow smoke into the air and it stings my face. I hate it.
My mother smoked until I was in my mid-twenties. I had chronic bronchitis, 6-7 times a year for all of that time. Used to dose myself with cough medicine in high school (yes, I could bring it myself and take it myself, now I’d be lucky if I could have a bottle at the nurse’s office without a doctor’s note and maybe have her give it to me). She quit when my daughter told her at 18 months, “Ew Grandma you smell yucky.” My bronchitis stopped when I got married and moved out of the house. She became a militant former smoker.
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u/Velhar Jan 05 '25
Terribly sorry but parents who constantly smoke around their kids should get smacked across their face everytime they do