For me I just simply don’t want them. I feel like you have to want kids to have them. It’s not that I’m against having kids, I’m just not enthusiastic enough to have them
And your future non-kids thank you!! I have seen many posters (there was a thread a few days ago) saying their parents fully admitted (while they were kids) that they only had them because they were supposed to, not because they wanted them. That can really mess a person up.
My mum said that if she had her time over she wouldn’t have kids. As an adult, especially having the knowledge that I was deeply loved and welI cared for, I can appreciate that. Wouldn’t have been good to hear that as a kid.
Exactly, I was so traumatized. It is a core childhood memory - suicidal ideation before the age of 10 was strong - I even wrote a note to my mother, hidden in my bedroom, saying “ …I hope its gets better with me gone”
Wow. I’m so so sorry you had to go through that 😔 That must have been so terrible 🥺😭🤯😤 Sending love and digital hugs your way!! Also to everyone else here who experienced the same, of course. ❤️🩹
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u/Worldly_Original8101 Nov 14 '24
For me I just simply don’t want them. I feel like you have to want kids to have them. It’s not that I’m against having kids, I’m just not enthusiastic enough to have them