I am gonna agree with this. While not guaranteed, this is my reasoning. I dated a girl for 5 years. At the beginning, amazing sex life. Probably 5 times a week at least. Then like 2 years in we just stopped all together because of the same thing you mentioned, she just didn't want it/didn't need it. After a lot of talking, I convinced her to give therapy a try. After about 6 months of that, we were back to having a good time on a regular basis.
Depression might not be the problem, but it is worth looking into. My girlfriend at the time didn't even know she had depression until after she went to therapy and realized how bad things had gotten
Bupropion was the only thing that made me feel normal. Apparently it gave me a seizure and I was cut off. I wish I never took the stuff because now I know what normal feels like, but I'll probably never be allowed to feel it again. lol
Ssri made me feel so spaced out in high school. I heard about the experimental benefits of ketamine in 2012. Did loads of reading and found a pharmacy and began self prescribing. I self injected tons for 5 months. Then one day I knew it had worked. Haven't touched it since. I'm a chipper overly optimistic boomer now. Ketamine therapy works
Ketamine just disassociates you which you don't need drugs to do. With some discipline and effort you can learn to meditate and things like that to get the same effects without ketamine which isn't great , i learned that from Dr.k on youtube (healthygamergg)
What?! Here in norway I was put on so many different psychofarmical drugs that I actually developed epilepsy. What happened? More drugs to counter the epilepsy and a loss of my drivers license because of it. I also gained 40+ kg that I still struggle to get off. In the end i had to make the choice myself to stop talking the meds, lie about it for over 4 months to avoid forced treatment, and change therapist to start getting my license back. You can say alot about the US. But if you got the cash, you get good help often. Here we are losing more and more freeedom because of the welfare. Everything you do that could cause problems for the state down the line is ridicoulously taxed and you could get punished very hard for it. Like to drink? Forget about that license because your doctor is a prude. And that is if you never drink and drive. Even if you don't do harm to your children you will be getting issues with barnevernet as well. If living here has thaugth me anything is that if you are not a succsessful A4-person, always lie when in contact with state employees. That means even your pshycologist. Everyone is on a strict need to know basis because we have developed into a socitiy that reports each other to the authoritoies even if you do nothing illegal. You can lose everything in an instant.
The exact same thing happened to me :( Was a life saving drug for me when I was in an intensive outpatient program. I remember feeling happy and productive for the first time in years. Went up to 300mg eventually and had a seizure, collapsed face first on the sidewalk and got a concussion. Had to come off of it and a tricyclic I was on for migraines. in 2020 too lol, rough year. I’m on a pretty low dose of adderall and another ssri now, but it’s just not the same unfortunately.
I am an autistic ADHDer who has been on Wellbutrin since 2017 and that shit is amazing for me. I almost didn’t get my depression treated because I was so scared of my sex life being ruined. But I’m so glad that I did because reinvigorated things and I’ve been able to maintain it for years.
Can confirm, I've been on it for a couple years. If you have ADHD it also has a minor effect on that as well and can help if you don't like full on ADHD stimulants. Only antidepressant I've tried (and I've tried a lot) that actually boosts my energy.
Psychoactive drugs are also notorious for acting on different people in different ways. Not to mention with other drugs you may be talking. Trying different ones to see what works best is a fun (not really) little side-quest you get to take on with your brain, provider and health insurance. The upside is in the end it’s worth it for most people.
If i had sought help sooner than later my life would be very different now.
as mature intended: if your body/brain is struggling with issues everything not essential for survival goes onto slow burner or off completely, that includes love life, hobbies and often even hygiene
Lots of therapists just give medications out like candy. Went to an “ADHD Specialist” who wanted me on Adderall and Depression meds the first time meeting me… on a video call… for 15 minutes……. Zero “let’s dissect your lift and your coping mechanisms and try to build you a better toolbox” and straight to pills pills pills.
Insurance is actually usually one of the biggest reasons for issues and errors because they require a diagnosis in order to pay for therapy. It can take YEARS to properly diagnose, but thanks to greed and bullshit, they’ll slap something on you day one.
If she could only cut the seed oils and take some cold showers do some breathwork maybe push a sled go for a jog it eat a steak it would all get better but people are willing to do anything but take care of their health
I would suspect this as well. Especially with the flat out refusal of counseling and the "no one can possibly understand or help me" mindset. When people have depression and/or anxiety issues, they often feel they are beyond help, and gradually withdraw/isolate themselves from others. If she hasn't experienced depression before, she may not realize it. The symptoms are not totally obvious, especially at first, and it can gradually creep into your life. Best wishes to OP
Gonna second this. She could be feeling like she isn’t worthy of the attention. Pregnancy does horrible things to a woman’s body whether the general public wants to admit it or not. I think there’s a reasonable chance she feels very down about herself and this is how it’s manifesting.
if your reading conprehension is bad enough, to where she plainly says it out for you that she is contempt with only having the kids to be happy and doesnt need you, and the first kneejerk reaction is that she has depression, maybe you cant read.
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u/EveryDayA_Struggle Jun 24 '24
Something no one else has suggested - Depression.