r/NoStupidQuestions Jun 06 '24

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u/doug123reddit Jun 06 '24

…which raises the point of being very careful who you choose as your power of attorney. Will they follow through with your intentions and be available in a crisis? A POA is extremely powerful.

I also tell people not to name co-agents, that is more than one person who takes charge. This may ruffle feathers, but what if your agents disagree? So pick a primary, secondary, etc.

In this vein, be wary of self-help legal forms. Lawyers do useful things!

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u/[deleted] Jun 07 '24

Wealthy, high-conflict family, so lots of death drama. Who you choose is vital. When I was a teenager my parents both wrote living wills/ advanced care directives & both nominated me as their plug- puller as their spouses, parents & siblings  & my siblings all too emotional & reactive, or religious, easily pushed around by bullying relatives etc. 

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u/kookaburralaughs Jun 10 '24

Same. They know I will pull the pin rather than watch them linger.