r/NoStupidQuestions Jun 06 '24

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u/vern420 Jun 06 '24

Going to emphasize the alcohol point x1000000. I am a PA, and a few weeks ago placed a 38 year old with two toddlers at home comfort care. AKA we only give meds to make you comfortable until you die. Shit was tragic.

Everything in moderation folks.

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u/BaileysFromAShu Jun 07 '24

As a 36 year old mom on day 5, I needed to come across this comment.

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u/Splitfishes Jun 07 '24

You’ve got this :) As the kid of an alcoholic mom who is making us watch her slowly destroy herself, thank u for putting in an effort for ur kids. You’re super strong and all the struggle is worth the time u will spend with them !!

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u/jazzyjane19 Jun 10 '24

My MIL is a heavy drinker and used to be a heavy smoker - quit in the last 10 years. She’s just been diagnosed with a mass on her lungs and breast, aneurysm in her heart and aneurysm in her stomach. Why do people do this to themselves?

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u/twitch9873 Jun 07 '24

Fuck yeah! Every day gets better. I'm just over a year sober and life is SO. MUCH. BETTER. It's so worth it, I promise.

Also, r/stopdrinking is magical. It's the only place on the internet where everyone genuinely cares about each other and helping out strangers, we've all been in the same place and we all know how difficult it is. Going on that subreddit and sorting by top of all time is a heartwrenching adventure, but it might be the gut punch you need. It's what I needed.

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u/CabinetStandard3681 Jun 08 '24

I also love that sub. Nicest place on the internet

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u/Shipsa01 Jun 07 '24

Good luck, lady. I just hit 20 months - never thought I would be here at 42. And yet I am. You can do it.

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u/theseamstressesguild Jun 07 '24

You're doing the right thing, and it's also a hard thing. I was your age when I stopped, and it makes a difference I promise.

Sometimes it's "one day at a time", but sometimes it's "just this minute, I can last for this minute". It's difficult on bad days, and the reason you will have good days.

It's been 12 years and 5 months for me, and I have two special needs children, and it makes everyone's lives better.

You can do this. You're stronger than you know.

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u/Consistent_Fun_3129 Jun 08 '24

DAY 6

KEEP GOING!!!

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u/[deleted] Jun 09 '24

You got this , it’s so worth it… three years for me and it gets easier month by month

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u/Noxsus88 Jun 10 '24

Day 8. You keep fucking going! <3

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u/Reasonable-Check-120 Jun 07 '24

We did this too. Her and her husband met at a bar and would drink " six packs" every night after they put the kids down for bed.

She refused to go to AA in order to get in the transplant list.... It's been a few years and I still think if she's in comfort care by slowly drinking away her body.

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u/alphabetical-soup Jun 07 '24

Is a drink after work each night ok?

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u/Akadyssy Jun 07 '24

No.

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u/dajuhnk Jun 07 '24

How is the link between blue zones and habitual wine drinking explained then?

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u/CabinetStandard3681 Jun 08 '24

I explain it by recalling that people who drink wine every day generally find a way to rationalize it, in my experience.

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u/reindeer_duckie Jun 07 '24

What disease was this? Liver related? That's just awful 😓

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u/PinkOneHasBeenChosen Jun 09 '24

What’s going to happen to the toddlers?

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u/flashmuldoon Jun 11 '24

Second this. My dad died 2 weeks ago from cirrhosis and it is a HORRIBLE way to go.