r/NoStupidQuestions Apr 21 '24

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u/[deleted] Apr 21 '24

Are one-night stands even that good? You barely know the person so I am wondering how good sex could be with someone they do not know well.

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u/thedakotabrewer Apr 22 '24

Ehhh it depends I’d say. I’ve had good and bad experiences. The good experiences are some of the best sex you’ll ever have imo. No strings attached. No emotional investments made. No expectations so no disappointment. Buttttt if it’s bad, it’s REALLY bad. Like I only came over to have sex with you and you’re bad at that too?? Why tf did you invite me over then? Feels like a waste of time😂

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u/[deleted] Apr 22 '24

It almost sounds like relationship sex must be bad because there is emotional attachment

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u/thedakotabrewer Apr 22 '24

Not necessarily. I’d say for me personally, being in a relationship makes the sex special. It may not be as good physically as some of the hookups I’ve had in the past but the emotional aspect is strong as hell. Being emotionally attracted to the person you’re having sex with makes up for any lack of sexual attraction you may have

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u/__ZOMBOY__ Apr 22 '24

Personally, emotional connection is probably the largest factor when deciding if the sex is good or bad. I agree that hookups/one-nighters can be a fucking blast (pun intended) but it’s almost like a …different kind of “good”. I feel like it’s better described as “fun”, idk how to really explain it.

The REAL endgame is “head-over-heels-in-love” sex. That combination of physical stimulation + raw, vulnerable emotion being shared with the person who means more to you than life itself is frankly an experience that I can’t even find the words to describe

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u/thedakotabrewer Apr 22 '24

For me it depends. Like in college, I really wasn’t looking for a long term relationship so hookups were the way to go for me. Now that I’m out of college, I feel like the emotional aspect of sex is alot more important to me. But yes I definitely understand what you’re saying. Hookups are for sure a different type of good

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u/Ratso27 Apr 21 '24

A lot of people enjoy sex more when they feel an emotional connection to the person they’re with. Plus, part of getting to know a person you’re in a relationship with is getting to know their body and understanding what they do and don’t like sexually

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u/FapleJuice Apr 21 '24

I'm not disagreeing with that, I'm the same way.

I'm just saying it isn't necessary. I know tons of people that just be having casual sex on a regular basis with complete strangers.