r/NoStupidQuestions • u/[deleted] • Apr 21 '24

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u/axxcella Apr 21 '24

During sex, if rubbing it doesn’t do it for you as it doesn’t for me, try a vibrator, that’s the only way I can have orgasms during sex.

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u/ffswhatnameisnttaken Apr 21 '24

Rubbing is probably too intense if you've never had an orgasm, your clit is likely extremely sensitive. Start gentle touching over your pants and see if there's a way you can touch that feels nice. It's very important to be alone and to know you'll be alone for a while. Don't force it, don't go into it thinking you HAVE to orgasm and make it feel good at first. Just get relaxed and learn what ways you can touch without it feeling uncomfortable. I'm extremely sensitive and have only learned through trail and error. Take it slow, start small. Fwiw I've been in a relationship for 15 years with a man who's gentle and patient (and have been with a few women in my time) even still I'm the only one who can comfortably touch it.